To ask DH not to keep what's apping work group at weekend

[MRSMARMITE3]

Can't work out if I'm being a jealous bitch. DH works in an office with about 15 people and the majority don't have kids. They have a what's app group and I swear he's always replying to it. It's pointless things like pictures of their cats /food etc but I'm like just get off the phone!! As soon as he comes home from work if he's not actively doing something he's on the group. He works with them all day as it is and travels with 3 of them. I work 3/7 evenings so don't really see him for those (he comes home and I go to work) so would be nice to have a little quality time at the weekends

It does sound jealous and unreasonable to me. What is it about it that bothers you? Do you have work friends; or is it maybe a referred loneliness?

I have a work WhatsApp group. Two, actually. And I chat to them and friends quite often - DP too, of course, but it'd feel weird if he stopped me from talking to them.

If it's really just that you want to spend time with him; I'd approach having set times for that and making sure it happens somehow, as opposed to stopping him from talking to anyone else.

I had the same with my DH. It used to drive me mad. I didn't mind him whats apping other people but the work group got to me. I think it was partly because he had all day to chat with them if he wanted, partly because his job has an out-of-hours aspect so sometimes they would be discussing work. It felt like an excessive intrusion on our personal life that he was talking work with colleagues on a Saturday night.

So yeah, YANBU in my view. Have you told him how you feel? Maybe ask him to cut down a bit.

It's not that I don't want him to talk to anyone else at the weekend, he regularly goes out on a Saturday it's more that it annoys me when we will be having lunch on a Saturday and he will suddenly get his phone out cos someone in the work groups send a photo of their cat. Then be on it for ages. I suppose I miss the old days when people gave their undivided attention for a small period of time. I find if he's on the phone and our child's in bed I end up doing the same as there's no conversation and I hate myself for it!