To move 3-4 hours from my family....

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I just can't make up my mind.... Take my son out of reception at a lovely school, take my youngest 2 out of a lovely nursery and then move to the other side of the country?
A beautiful, more remote part of the country. Not busy and congested like this unnamed hole of a city. Potentially it's the life I always imagined. My husband and I will have the chance to work less hours at the same wage and still be able to afford a dreamy house with an even dreamier garden. Plus holidays. But at what cost? My family, my friends...i would say that my family don't live down the road, they currently live about 90 minutes drive away so it's not like we see them that often anyway, maybe once a month...

No brainer. Go for the move.

I would move, now is your chance while dc are young.

Move

Depends how much value you place on your friends. If they are close friends and you like seeing them often then that would persuade me to stay more then if you don’t see them often. But then my friends are very important to me!

Move.

3-4 hours isn't that much.

The sooner the better, far easier to do when the kids are so little.

I'm sure you have considered everything but if it's remote remote, how do you feel about having to drive everywhere? A 40 mins plus trip for a pint of milk? What about when the DC wants to join a club in the nearest town? What's it like in deepest darkest winter? Wet, cold, dark, snowed in? How far is the nearest doctors/hospital/petrol station/train station/airport/ferry? Would you have to drive the school run everyday? What about nearest secondary school?

I would.

Will you be isolated?

It is a risky move in every sense of the word. My sister did this in an attempt to get away and make a fresh start. She and my mum did not on well and she saw it as an escape. It worked well at first and the distance improved their relationship. Now 13 years later her marriage has broken up and she is isolated with a very demanding child with extra needs. She can’t move back to our home area as property prices round here have shot up out of her reach.
Mum is older now and doesn’t drive anymore so she can’t get to Sister’s new area (and it’s a total mare on public transport) so doesn’t see her much and has no real relationship with her grandchild. I know my sister is lonely and I do what I can to support her but our lives are in different places now.

Wow that looks like a majority...

Not isolated really. Still within walking distance of school/some amenities and a 10 minute drive to a major city. Just overall a bit more rural.

My friends are important. I met them through having children and they have all been good to me. They are not my old school friends though who are scattered across the 4 corners of the earth...

Thanks everyone

Move.
What if you stayed for friends and then over the years they all moved away? They're not even old friends. You'll make new friends and can stay in touch/visit the others.