Getting married to get away from home

[AnyLondoner]

Did anyone here get married young or moved out just get away from home?

I don't have a great relationship with my mother , I feel very awkward around her and I've been through some things that I don't really want to go into details. I carry a lot of resentment towards my mum. It wasn't a great childhood, a lot of shouting, noise, no privacy, constant put downs, no love or affection shown, beatings. So you get the idea, and I'm determined to give my three babies everything that I never had. To be honest, I think this is why I got married so young, at 20 years old. I was just on the phone to my mum today, and I could hear her shouting at my 19 year old sister, I thought to myself glad I'm not a part of that anymore.

Why not simply move out alone?

Probably because even when housing costs were relatively cheaper and jobs not so hard to come by, it would often have been unaffordable to rent a place and pay living costs on your own.

In my single early-mid 20s (in the 70s) I hardly knew anyone who could afford to rent on their own - we were all in reasonably paid jobs and house-shares - and still didn't have much left over, if anything, at the end of the month. OK, this was in the SE - maybe different elsewhere.

Why not just move out?

It's easier to make the move away from controlling parents if you have someone else you can rely on for emotional support.

IMGLIDING......So very sorry for all the hell your family inflicted on you, and very glad H no 2 was a good one and you are happy, you certainly deserve it.

I did it and it was the biggest mistake of my life. Divorced now but I regret it every day and wish I had had the guts like you have to end it sooner.

@ImGlidingHere I'm so sorry for everything that has happened to you, I'm glad you're happy now.

@SharpieHorder yes trust me I'm so happy I made the decision to end it now. I spent my 20s unhappy with a man child , constant cooking, cleaning, looking after kids on my own etc. I will spend my 30s, 40s and 50s doing ME! Happy and healthy. I'm 28 btw

@SharpieHorder how long have you been married? Nosey

Thank you for your kind thoughts.

I married to get away from home, too, in the 70s. And yes, someone up thread said things were different years ago and they were: it was nigh impossible to leave in order to live alone in those days.

I think that in the past a lot of women (I don't know about men) used to marry in order to escape their parents. Sometimes of course it was from frying pan to fire, and not so easy to split up from a spouse, too.