To wonder what yr 8 parents are letting their kids watch Love Island??

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Dd says "all my friends watch it", "why can't I?".

Lol. Absolutely, not.

Who and why are ppl letting their 12/13 yr olds watch this?

I've watched a bit with my oldest, 11, to explain what is wrong with the way they act, how they treat each other and wear next to nothing.

Personally though I love the show...

If my dcs aspired to be like these jellyheads, I would think I had failed as a parent.

I let my young teens and 12 yo watch it. It is THE THING at school. It's all they are talking about.

I agree it gives good opportunities for discussions. Also, I think the men are ok - there's no violence and they are pretty respectful from the bits I've seen.

What do you think they are watching on their iPhones anyway? It's a shed load worse than this!!!

I definitely agree with the "zoo" comment; both DD and DS are aghast. They were horrified at Hayley when she thought Brexit meant cutting down trees!

Seriously though, it can spark a lot of interesting discussion. If your DC are old enough for some of the more sexual discussions I'd let them watch it. They're going to meet shallow and stupid and fickle people eventually.

As long as you don't have them look up to poor role models on the show, it shouldn't be an issue.

And honestly not all of them are awful. Dani is lovely. DS was interested in Wes' job. And there's business people, a solicitor, a doctor etc. That prompted a very interesting discussion that we often see attractive/scantily dressed = stupid, especially for women, but it's not really the case.

its interesting that on another thread of here people were saying letting children watch it is child abuse and social services would become involved. yet on this one lots of parents are admitting their children watch it.

I agree about the conversation. Dani has some good morals and she is most of the girls favourites. My DD sees straight through the other girls.

Most girls don’t aspire to be like those on this years show. In fact most of my daughters friends have stopped watching because it is full of fake wannabes.

Some of their behaviour is on the extreme end of personalities and my girls recognise this.

Having said that I always watch first and then allow them to watch on catchup if I think it is ok. They will be missing last nights!

I let my Yr9 DD watch it on catch up and watch it beforehand myself so can vet episodes-it has sparked some great conversations though so has proved useful!

The other thread was about primary school aged kids (a 10 year old)

so for a 10 year old its child abuse but 11, 12, 13 isnt? fwiw i didnt agree with the last threads opinions anyway but i just think the difference is interesting.

i didnt agree with the last threads opinions anyway but i just think the difference is interesting.

I think at these ages children are all over the place in terms of maturity.

A lot of 13 yo know about sex. Even more adult stuff like "The Mile High Club" (DD had to explain that one to DS ) In that case not much of an issue though probably prevent then watching any actual filmed activity.

If you have a fairly innocent child, Love Island isn't a good place to start as it could shape a lot of their views on relationships and sex.

Of course there is an age where it just isn't acceptable.

DS is 8, the kids in his class are talking about it.

But I honestly doubt they're watching it. More likely they've picked up chatter from their parents.

A bit like how every single boy he knows is playing Fortnight and I'm a meanie for not letting him. Except they're not, I know their parents and they tell me little Johnny doesn't even own an xbox, let alone play Fortnight

Take it with a pinch of salt. Thought undoubtedly there will be some who are.

@butterfly I think it has a lot to do with puberty. I know my DD became a lot more aware of her body once her periods started. I would see no need to expose a 10 year old to any sexual talk above the basic how a baby is made talk.

Once girls hit puberty, this talk extends into feelings/emotions etc. Plus it is when they start to notice boys properly.

well on the other thread it was "the school will report you to ss if they hear your child watches love island" is there a massive difference between 10 and 11? and most children by 10 know what sex is. not that there is much happening in love island anyway. and what does happen you dont see.

DD during PD (yr9) has been taught about every different kind of sex at school this yr, has put condoms on a dildo (she rates her skill at this as high!) and last week watched in my opinion far to graphic videos of FGM- all without discussing with parents prior to this so that we could discuss things first.

On that basis, I don't perceive letting her watch Love Island on catch up to be child abuse no and clearly neither would school!

the school will report you to ss if they hear your child watches love island

How odd

At certain stages of schooling I'd think they might send out a letter or notice of some sort if it became apparent that kids were watching Love Island.

Social Services? No way.

I have watched some of it with dgod daughter who is in Yr 8
I thought it was excellent way of discussing why and what was wrong with this kind of behaviour

Ffs.. I am sure social services are far too busy with real abuse cases to worry about love island

you didnt read the last thread then roses? they were actually saying that it would be reported to ss as its "soft porn" funnily enough last year when i watched it my 5 year old (who i will add didnt watch it but heard me and my sisters discussing it) went to school and drew me a "love island" picture. funnily enough i wasnt reported to ss. infact his teacher found it hilarious!

social services and school safeguarding lead. apparently.

Soft porn... Really.... A bit of kissing

Have you seen the forms that need filling out for a school referral to SS?

That is a hell of a lot of paperwork!

Also, I think the men are ok - there's no violence

Is this really how low we're setting the bar?

Dd1's classmate's mum posted on FB last night that she probably shouldn't be watching it anyway but her dd1 thinks Jack is fit.
They are in year 2😮😮😮

My Yr 8 was v dismissive of it but does say alot of her friend group watch it avidly. Can't think of any better way to increase teen pregnancies myself.

It is a sh*t show and the people are vacuous ....

No different to any soapie and I really feel that arguing and as for choosing battles I would rather leave the LI battle and rather battle the other bigger things in my 13yo’s life ...