oh oh i hate that i'm posting in this topic, but AIBU in giving my cleaner a bit of a rollicking?

[Tutter]

ds and i were upstairs just now and i heard something downstairs - came down to find our cleaner had let herself in (she has a key) to drop off some ironing

she normally brings ironing back when she comes to clean - she's due to clean tomorrow

if i'd been out, the alarm would have been on, and it's one of those that alerts the police who come straight to the house. 3 strikes and you're out, so setting it off is not something i want to happen

also just hate the fact that she didn't call to ask if it was ok for her to come around - she just waltzed in

she cleaned on monday and didn't lock the door she uses, so it was unlocked for 48hrs til i noticed it

i mentioned this to her just now (as well as saying i'd rather she didn't just let herslef in) and she appeared completely unbothered and didn't apologise

grrr

if it wasn't so blardy hard to find a decent cleaner around here i'd let her go

Why ask the question then?

Why not just make it clear that only posters agreeing with you are welcome to offer their opinions?

hmm i hithknsh eis reserving ehr right ot be pregannt and unhinged

actually

leaving a door open and letting oneself in unannounced on top of not being very good .. why are you employing her?

first one a mistake .. fine
second one is plain rude and abuse of having keys (our cleaner has keys and alarm code)
third one .. why pay someone to be crap at their job

don't mind peple disagreeing

if they do so ina reasonable manner

custy was just a tad aggressive

and you think it's an all or nothing situation -if you cant' deal with this situation then you shouldn't have a cleaner

not entirely reasonable i would say

horsewhip her to within an inch of her life

its the only way you know

my cleaner actually doesn't speak english at all .. our mornings are a fiesta of overly enthusiastic charades and looks of bewilderment

actually she's getting married next week. .. what does one buy one's cleaner for her wedding?

So you have answered your own question.

To you it is unreasonable.

I don't think people have been rude. Teasing perhaps, but not rude.

I would be rude to foxinsocks who presumed that your cleaner didn't speak English.

I think your reaction of sacking her is ott. After all, she's probably not doing the job because it was her career plan is she? She is doing it because she needs the money so one would hope, and I'm sure you do this Tutter, that she is treated with respect and if she makes mistakes that she is given the chance to respond to those mistakes just like any other employee.

A mop and bucket?

don't understand your post deiserata

she was responding to Twiglett tutter.

It was in reply to Twig's post about what to buy a cleaner for a wedding present.

ok

she isn't a struggling low-paid cleaner. she is 60ish and tells me she does it for the company as much as anything. she drives a brand new car and holidays in bermuda

let me recap - i pay her £10 an hour

i'm not a megalomaniac, as suggested by custardo

i think it's reasonable to expect someone to clean well, and respect my privacy, for £10 an hour

Despite erroneously accusing me of inverted snobbery , I do agree with you on that issue, Tutter. If she's a crap cleaner, you should get rid of her. I'm a great cleaner (except when it comes to my own place), and I don't get anything like £10.00 an hour.

Sounds to me like the alarm and the coming in unannounced was the straw that broke the camel's back.

I think you should ask her next time she is cleaning if she has found your sense of humour?

Seriously Tutter, I do think you are taking these comments to heart a little bit.

You asked if we thought you were being unreasonable. The answer is generally yes. You have said that no you are not. So don't ask the question then.

Now get a nice glass of wine or something and just chill out.

you're missing Important Details rhubarb - am pg, not v wise to strat drinking at 5pm...

Have a chat and let her know that you were annoyed at her leaving the door open and letting herself in.

But these things should be tackled at the time they happened, not afterwards.

And if you have dealt with them then give her another chance and if you are still not happy you will have to let her go.

I know you are pg. I would have no probs having a glass of wine at 5pm. Tis the same as having one at 9pm. One glass is one glass.

But you don't drink. Ok.

why buy her anything twiglett you are giving her the day off arent you
seriously guess it depends on how long she has been working for you etc

oh, i have to admit to happily drinking wine when pg. just not at 5pm. i save it for when ds asleep

I'm thinking nice card and money to be honest .. I don't know what she wants / needs and we're not exactly friends

Fair enough then.

Just take time out and then read these replies later. Honestly most of them are just teasing you, they don't mean anything personal by it.

Now gerrof yer bum and dust yer house ya lazy blob!

twig, my cleaner is angling for an invite to a party we're plannign

keeps dropping v unsubtle hints

think part of the whole prob described below is she thinks of herslef as part of the family - hence letting herslef in - often likes to comment on stuff going on with ds, parents etc

i don't have a prob with being friendly with her, just don't particularly wan to invite her to my party!

she's obviously too familiar for a cleaner .. think you need to get a butler to put her in her place

ok i'll get my personal trainer to beat her into submission

I would be mad - she shouldn't feel free to just pop in. It is basic manners to call and let you know she needs to pop by or at the very least KNOCK before she let's herself in. Any chance this is a cultural thing?! Does she speak good English? Would she understand your explanation about the alarm?

ooh genidef, tis always wise to read a thread first

no, her english is fine