Babysitting

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Babysat for a new family on Saturday, I was recommended by a friend. I live in a small village and babysit for quite a few of the local families.

Babysat until 2am, the mother came home and asked how much I owed her. As I was about to calculate it on my phone she said “can I drop the money of at yours tomorrow” I said yes fine as obviously she didn’t have any money and I wasn’t going to ask her to walk down to the local cash point at 2 in the morning.

Texted her this morning with my address and bank details (incase it was easier for her to transfer the money over rather than make the journey down to my home). Sent the message around 12pm today, no response (although she’s been on WhatsApp since then!!). Just copied and sent the same message. Had a reply back saying “I’ll sort it out tomorrow when I get a chance”. 🤨 I have a feeling she won’t be paying it at all but that’s another matter.

AIBU to expect her to pay it on the night or at least the next day?? Sorry but you don’t go into a shop and say “oh I’ll pay for that shopping next week”. I just think it’s so bloody rude I could honestly need that money for something and she knew for at least a week I was babysitting so had plenty of time to get money out of the cash point ready for the night. Grrrrr

I’ve always been paid on the night by all my other families so this really isn’t the norm for me. I’m prepared to be told I’m an impatient cow.

Not at all, she’s a cheeky cow!

Yanbu at all! Yes, you always pay on the day with babysitters ime. I hope she pays up. I wouldn’t sit for her again.

I'm guilty of forgetting to take money out for sitter. I always do BACs the next day although sometimes not til eve as busy with work/kids.

I've occasionally paid 48 hours later through genuine forgetfulness

Grobags honestly that’s not on. I’m a cm and have babysat on occasion, I just wouldn’t sit again for people who don’t pay promptly. You’re very lucky your sitter obviously does but you should be more respectful.

Thank you ladies for reassuring me I’m not an impatient cow. It has really hit a nerve to be honest as like I say I could of needed that money for anything, and the fact I have given up my weekend when I could of been at home relaxing really frustrates me.

I shouldn’t have to chase her up over the sake of £50. As it’s a small village my mother actually knows the lady in question and has already said she’ll be sure to mention it in conversation if she doesn’t pay up!

YANBU

YANBU - it's totally unacceptable not to pay right away (that goes for you too Grobags!). She should have done a bank transfer there and then if she forgot cash. Keep hounding her and don't babysit for her again, she's a CF

Of course you should have been paid that night ,she's being a c.f. Indeed!Don't let her get away with it op.
And @grobags,that's really not very nice of you at all is it?

Of course she should have. As if she wouldn't have internet banking on her phone. You can even do mobile transfers!

I completely agree, the time that it took her to reply to my message she could of just made the transfer anyway. I transfer money over to different accounts all the time and it literally takes 2 seconds.

I think some people just try to hold onto their money for as long as they can. It is a shame as I enjoyed the actual babysitting part and the children were lovely. If I were to babysit for her again (not saying I will!) I will tell her beforehand I need paying on the same night so we all know where we stand.

I'd ask for it upfront next time! No pay, no play! I used to babysit and when the kids dad used to walk me back home (I was 16) he'd try and come up with every excuse under the sun not to pay me! It's unfair, don't go out if you have no intention to pay childcare!

I always pay on the day but assuming people have mobile banking apps on their phone is a big assumption. I use my phone for all sorts but my banking is not one of them. I am not 100% happy about the security so I would have to get my laptop out to do it.

What did you say you that? "When I get a chance" would have irritated me so much! I would have text back "I actually don't extend credit to people, it needs to be paid today whether you "get a chance" or not" and definitely don't babysit again, cheeky cow

No she's a dick babysitting prices should be agreed beforehand and yes you should be given the money on the night. Even if she pays i wouldn't go back!

I agree you should have been paid already, but I know setting up a new payee on my account needs me to be able to find my card reader first so isn't always the quick undertaking it could be

Blimey....I was only late paying once...sitter was fine about it, it is possible to forget things! Had she texted to remind me I'd have done it straight away. I always round up the hours too.

We're all human.

It wouldn't occur to me not to pay a babysitter on the night - I always make sure I have enough cash to cover it. She's completely out of order.

Backtracking now Grobags, your first message says it was more than once you didn’t pay on the night. Not cool.

I babysat loads as a teenager/student (3 -4 times a week) I was never, ever not paid on the night. I’d have refused to sit for that family again if they hadn’t paid me.

Whenever we use babysitters now I always get the cash out earlier in the day. I’d be mortified not to be able to pay that night.

Has she paid yet?

Some people are so damn cheeky! I hope she's paid you now OP?

What a cheeky cow. It's not part of your job to chase down payment. I would be mortified if I forgot to get cash out and would be offering to transfer it online, making sure you got paid ASAP. She is trying to get out of paying.

I wouldn't sit for her again unless she had the money ready for you