To jump to conclusions

[Sharpandshineyteeth]

DP and I are going through a rough time. He has been staying with his mum a lot and looking after our DD there as I am physically unable. She has helped a lot with DD whilst he has worked.

Today we have had an argument. Long story short, he wouldn't get a taxi home so I could collect my son from camp, he sent his mum instead. I was in tears and trying to keep it under control But was upset.

DP would not stay with me tonight and has left for his mums. She has now posted a link on Facebook about 7 signs your dealing with an evil person. She never be usually posts links. Is this aimed at me? It seems increcibally cruel. Yes, i am very needy at the moment but my DP moved out in the middle of my cancer treatment and I am not doing well with my mental health. Surely no one would think my behaviour is manipulative

I'm so sorry, it doesn't look good. You are already dealing with more than you should have to, and this is just an evil thing to do to you

Really sorry you’re going through this especially dealing with illness. I really don’t think you should give her facebook posts any notice at all. If she’s having a dig, ignore you don’t need any extra shit.

She has been so supportive, more than my own family. That's why it hurts.

She's always going to take her sons side though. But hinting that I'm evil. That's just behind awful.

My baby is there as well. I just want her back now

Why assume the post is aimed at you? I hope you are well enough to have ds home soon.

I know I'm probably being generous but if she has been supportive is there a chance it's a dig at her own son? Or she's trying to find a way to tell you he's a twat without actually having to say he's a twat x

Before I even got to Kirbs' comment, I was also thinking that she might have done it as a subtle hint that she thinks her son has been behaving badly towards you.

Maybe you should speak to her. You don't know for sure if it was aimed at you and you don't know exactly what version of events her son has given her. You do know though that she's been there for you and DD in the past and her support going forward would be a great help. Get calm, and give her a call. You might get a pleasant surprise but even if it goes the other way at least you'll have had the chance to give your side of the story.

I’m sorry to hear you’re going through so much 🌷

Your DP sounds like a monumental twat 🙁

As your MIL has been so supportive, why not phone her and ask her to bring your baby home.

I think you need to look into other forms of help with your DC so they are cared for at your home and Dipshit can’t just take them away from you when he wants. Maybe an au pair or something as well as support from friends and any local charities?

You can’t allow him to just do as he pleases with your DC because he’s a nasty, unreasonable twat.

I’m very sorry x 😖

And it might be about someone else entirely. Couldn't you just have a chat with her - not about that, but about the whole situation? She's a mother herself, and you say she's been supportive. You are in a very difficult situation at the moment and understandably super sensitive and emotional. Possibly the woman is just trying to do her best for everybody?

You can't assume it's about you. It could be about anyone.

+Long story short, he wouldn't get a taxi home so I could collect my son from camp, he sent his mum instead.*

Don't really get this? Surely you could still collect your son?

Has your DP moved or is he back?