Basically, one of my friends is depressed at the moment. She doesn't have that many close friends and although me and her aren't incredibly close, she keeps turning to me for support.
However, I recently went through a bad period myself, I'm not sure I was bad enough to be classed as depressed but it was heading that way. I feel a lot better now, not 100% but getting there. I'm also really busy at the moment, I've thrown myself into work and I'm starting a part-time degree, overall I really just don't have any spare time or energy.
I feel awful but I just can't support my friend and it's always me that she turns to. I can't spend hours each day talking to her about her problems and sometimes she says things which bring up past issues in my life and after finally getting over everything, it hurts to have these feelings brought up again. And I never know what to say to her or how to make things better. Sometimes she calls me upset in the middle of the night and I try my best to help her but I don't think I do enough, then I end up feeling awful and staying awake from anxiety.
AIBU to politely ask her to not bring all her problems to me? And how do I even do this? I have been trying to get her to see a GP or therapist or someone, I don't think I've been too pushy as I didn't want to make things worse but she hasn't seen anyone yet. Of course I will be there in emergencies but I can't cope every day. I don't know who else to suggest she talks to. I don't want to abandon her but I'm very far out of my depth with this whole thing.