Not calling ex on father's day?

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As the title says really, was i bu, to have not called exdp and wished him happy fathers day even though I made sure the dcs did?

For context, he rarely makes an effort for me on mothers day/birthdays etc, I rarely get a card from him or even a call and it doesn't bother me one bit.

This morning I received a txt saying "thanks for not even calling or texting to wish him a happy fathers day" and he can really see the type of person I am.
The dcs had spoken to him 45 mins before hand and he is now out with them and I have a bag of gifts for when he comes back, is he being an arsehole or am I wrong?

Is he your dad?

Why TF would you call him? He's not your dad! He's BU and an immature twat.

Wow he’s being a complete ass!
It’s Fathers Day not Wanky ex partners day!

Of course yanbu

Err you have done nothing wrong, he isnt your Dad...

MrsBertBibby That was my reply.

Thank you I didn't think I was wrong, he's unbelievable sometimes and really does have his head up his arse.

Yanbu, he sounds like an idiot, you don't wish a father a "happy fathers day", its about thanking and appreciating your father as far as I'm concerned which I did for my own father. For my ex I paid for the DCs (they chose) gift and card, and they spoke to him and will give gifts tommorow.

Is he generally like this trying to cause arguments with you?

And you would have been a weird stalker still obsessed with him if you had. You can’t win against this kind of mentality. No, you were not unreasonable

Why the fuck does he think you should call him? He's being a massive bellend!

I've not wished my DH 'happy father's day'. He's not my dad. That would be illegal.

I have wished my father a happy Father’s Day. I know many other men who are fathers - I won’t be wishing any of them a happy Father’s Day, they would think I was a loon.

Equally there would be no reason for him to wish you a Happy Mother’s Day, although if the DC are too young to sort their own cards/presents then he should help them do that.

wanda Yes he is usually like this, everything is a competition with him. I moved house just over a month ago with both dcs in tow, he's moving this week and I asked yesterday when he was coming for the dcs as it's his weekend, his response was "do I know how hard it is to move with kids around?"
If I hadn't had called him yesterday I wouldn't even have known he wasn't collecting them.

MrsFezziwig Both dcs are under 10 and as I said he rarely buys me anything, it gets left to my mum or friends to do that sort of thing for me.

Why would you call him he’s not your dad even if he made loss of fuss over you he’s not YOUR DAD