To be upset with DD?

[CourtneyLovely]

I've been quite poorly so am probably being over-emotional. Also I have ASD and struggle when plans go awry.

I make a Sunday dinner every week. Even if I work on a Sunday I come home and make a big dinner. Today's was going to be sausages, Aunt Bessie's Yorkshires (the ones that are batter, not the ready cooked ones), roasted new potatoes and veg.

I got up late, had some toast and went for a bath. I come back downstairs and DD has cooked half the sausages and ALL of the Yorkshires along with chips and frozen peas. For herself. Nothing for me.

I'm not only upset that she's scuppered my Sunday dinner plans but it's more that she's been so bloody selfish!

Possibly need telling to get a grip but AIBU to be pissed off?

I want that yorkie - filled with onion gravy.

yorkshireyummymummy you are a real sweetheart

OP I would be annoyed, I think kids don’t think though most of the time! My DC is probably a lot younger than yours (7) but today he poured himself a huuuge bowl of Cheerios (like 1/3 of the box, Sunday is “DIY breakfast day” so mum and dad can chill!), couldn’t eat them and then chucked the leftovers. I was really annoyed and told him that was greedy of him.

It’s not the first time he’s done something similar; finished the last of something without offering them to everyone else, taking too much and then not finishing it; but we do tell him every time and it’s getting less and less.

YANBU to be annoyed, but it’s not a reflection on you, or your parenting. Children/teens often don’t really look much further than the ends of their noses a lot of the time! You have to just remind them every time.

I would give her a list, tell her to go down to the shop and replace the items and then she can prepare you dinner to make up.

lipstick
I had lots of friends who asked me how i made my puddings and I had to make a batch and check how much i was putting in! I refined it to simple measures and now they all do fab puddings.
I feel it’s my goal in life to get everybody cooking Yorkshire puddings which are the food of the gods ( as indeed , Yorkshire is Gods own county!) and so I am happy to spread and share.
courtney
Ignore all of the strange people. Sausages make a perfectly lovely Sunday dinner. As does mince and liver. Just as long as you have Yorkshire puddings and gravy with it - they are the two things that make it a Sunday dinner! Xxx

How many of you are there? It sounds like there are just two of you, so...
DD has cooked half the sausages her portion and ALL of the Yorkshires so what 2 or 4 yorkshires (presumably you were planning on 1 or 2 each)? along with chips and frozen peas. For herself. Nothing for me. Since you were both unwell, and had just made yourself some toast, she probably thought you wouldn't want a big dinner - it sounds as though she was recognising that you were too ill to cook or eat dinner, and so just got on and cooked her own.

I'm not sure if this is a big a deal as you are making out. Obviously, if it turns out that she's eaten 8 sausages,and a 16 pack of yorkshires and a whole bag of chips and peas, then that's a different issue. But if it's just a case of her getting on and cooking herself a fairly normal meal, without realising that you were intending on cooking/eating a big meal today, then you're probably overreacting.

Also - sausages do not = Sunday roast.

This is the third sausage thread I’ve read!

rowena - which is the 3rd sausage thread - there is this one, the husband wanting a sausage sandwich (defrosted sausages) but which is the third?

Very selfish and especially as you are unwell. If she's old enough to cook for herself, then she's old enough to cook for you. I'm a bit gobsmacked that she ate half a pack of sausages, I know my appetite has got smaller as I've got older but don't ever recall eating SIX. And to cook all the Yorkshires and then not eat them, beyond greedy and unthinking.

I would be having stern words (as you eat your richly deserved takeaway and hopefully she will be drooling. Tough.)

(Sorry - just seen the 3rd sausage thread!)

That's disgustingly selfish of her.
So rude!
Why would she not even consider cooking your dinner at the same time as her own?
Bloody hell, the nerve of some grown children takes my breath away sometimes - why on earth are you even ASKING whether you should be upset with her, of COURSE you should!!

Also, OP never said it was a "Sunday roast, she said Sunday dinner^. She can have what she likes for dinner.

I would be annoyed too, but just send her back to the shop. Job done.

She can pay for them too, obviously.

And we had a fry up for our Sunday dinner. With fancy sausages, black pudding and bacon from the local butcher and everything

Not traditional, but fabulous all the same. Everyone's different.

Who decides what is acceptable Sunday lunch fayre? Does it go through Parliament and get written up as a bill?

I had mushroom soup. I’m scared I may have unwittingly broken a Sunday lunch law.

I had NO LUNCH today. So shoot me.

There's three different threads about sausages in my active threads. wtf

How about (and this tip is for the lazy)
Get 3 glasses the same size on the side, into the first one crack 3 eggs, into the second fill to same level with flour, into the 3rd, fill to the same level with milk.....no scales, no messing and lovely batter. just alter amount of eggs/ level to suit how many are eating.
(3 Usually do for me and 2 kids)
Hope this helps someone :)

There's three different threads about sausages in my active threads. wtf

Makes a change from the Meghan threads though.

Just seen one of the other sausage threads - I'll seek out the 3rd!

DD is 18 and also has ASD.

2 of us in the house. 6 sausages (so she had 3) and 6 Yorkies. I usually make my own but got these because I'm poorly.

We're veggie and they're quorn sausages, she wasn't expecting chicken or anything! Sausages plus Yorkies is toad next to the hole and is often Sunday dinner here. We don't have toad in the hole because of the sensory issues we have between us.

DD is now in a sulk because I made her feel like shit - wtf?!

Just cook yourself the rest for dinner and let her have cereal. She's had her half.

We don't have toad in the hole because of the sensory issues we have between us.
What does this mean?

Mission I have a huge issue with food touching other food. DD has a problem with the consistency of the Yorkshire where the sausage has been.

So DD was hungry cooked herself some food, whilst you had a lie in and a bath. I would be pleased she did that. Was she supposed to read your mind and shout at you in the bath to come downstairs and cook her some breakfast?

We don't have toad in the hole because of the sensory issues we have between us.
What does this mean?

My daughter also has sensory issues and I totally understand what you mean. And I have never hard of "toad next the hole", but she would love it and I'm going to steal that idea.

Still, she should have checked before helping herself.

So the only thing she cooked that should've been for your dinner but hers is the extra Yorkshire's, which can probably be rewarmed in the oven as they are frozen ones anyway. Maybe a bit selfish not to cook yours too but maybe she thought add you were unwell and had toast, you didn't want dinner so was in fact just catering for herself so it wasn't something for you to think about. I think this is a bit of an over reaction. There are still three veggie sausages left, the new potatoes you were going to roast, I'm assuming the veg you were going to cook is still there as she just had some peas, pop the Yorkshire's back in the oven and have your dinner. I also agree with others that whilst this is a duvet, it's not the Sunday roast you led us all to believe.

So many autocorrects , but you get the gist..