Am I being unreasonable about hygiene around baby?

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We have a 2 month old baby. My husband is constantly standing all over his playmat/the blanket he lies on on the floor/changing mat etc. We went to see his family friends recently who stood on the blanket in outdoor shoes!

Am I unreasonable to think this is unhygienic and be annoyed? I bought the blanket so the baby didn't have to lie on the carpet and I may as well just lie him on the pavement outside.

I was diagnosed with perinatal OCD and I feel often my husband thinks I am being OTT (for example getting annoyed if I ask him to wash hands after nappy changes).

So Mumsnet jury, am I unreasonable or is he?

I ant believe he doesn't wash his hands after nappy changes, that's properly disgusting!!!

I wouldn't fuss too much about indoor shoes / socks / slippers on the baby's blanket but I understand why you don't want outdoor shoes on it as that does seem a bit unhygienic. So YANBU - and even if yoUr DH does think you are being a bit precious, he should concede this point if he knows it upsets you!

YANBU I would be exactly the same. Obviously you should wash your hands after nappy changes, that's just standard!
I agree, the mats are a great way of letting baby on floor whilst in a clean way.

I don't have children (yet) but I have been diagnosed with OCD for over 11 years now.

I'm sure when I have a child I'll be a stickler for making sure people wash their hands and keep baby clean.

Not washing hands after changing a diaper is gross. Standing on the play mat wouldn't bother me, but we don't wear shoes in the house, it would just be bare feet or socks here. I would never stand on a baby's blanket in my shoes.

YANBU he should wash his hands after a nappy change & standing on a baby blanket without outdoor shoes on is pretty dumb too! I am not a stickler for cleanliness, but I'd be unhappy about that.

What you're saying sound completely reasonable to me OP. I'd be furious is someone stood on my baby's blanket and doing so in outdoor shoes just shows utter disrespect.

As far as washing hands after nappy changing goes, to me that's a given in the same ways I wash my hands after using a lavatory.

There was a very long thread on here some time ago about that and you'd be amazed at the amount of people who said they didn't wash their hands after nappy changing.

I'm sure you've seen people coming out of public lavatories without washing their hands. Some people are just disgusting.

I'd be furious is someone stood on my baby's blanket and doing so in outdoor shoes just shows utter disrespect.

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What the fuck are anyone doing standing on anyone’s belongings with their shoes on?

I’d be seriously pissed off if one of my friends or family stood on my clothes with their shoes on.

I think the problem is beyond shoes and hygiene. It’s that your husband was bought up in a barn, the same barn in which his family still live apparently...

Not standing on the baby's mat in outside shoes is just common sense.

However, try and relax about 'hygiene'. Your baby is far more likely to be harmed by no exposure to bacteria - studies are showing that that may be the cause of increased childhood leukaemia rates. It's better for them to build up their immune system.

Who stands on a bay mat/blanket?

What weirdos! Who the hell stands on a baby blanket? Do they not see it?

YANBU. Shout at them.

YANBU, totally disgusting not to wash your hands after changing a nappy and utterly rude and ignorant to stand on a baby’s blanket with shoes on.

You aren’t being OTT.
I assume is just a nappy full of wee not poo if he’s not handwashing? I could deal with that. But not a poo nappy, no handwash after that is filthy.
Stepping on a baby blanket/playmat in outdoor shoes is disrespectful and disgusting. Do these idiots realise dogs shit on the streets and a bit of shit can actually cause blindness? To avoid this, you could get a hexagonal playpen and stick the playmat in it. I did this for other reasons (very unstable toddler newly walking and newborn liable to get fallen on!). Plus if you’re just laying a blanket on the floor for the baby, you might as well push a lie flat pram inside so the baby is no longer on the floor. Plenty of nurseries have no shoe policies. Your husband sounds like a caveman with no running water.

YANBU. It’s just basic, sensible hygiene. Washing your hands after a nappy change is the same as washing your own hands after you’ve been to the loo and if you wanted to change a lightbulb you’d not stand on your bed with outdoor shoes on. So DH shouldn’t stand on baby’s blanket with mucky outdoor shoes on. These are nothing to do with you having OCD. It’s just a grim lack of hygiene.