To value today with your dad

[ForalltheSaints]

For those celebrating Father's Day, please value it as much as you can. Please also remember those who fathers have died or are absent too.

I'm happy for all of you who have loving relationships with your fathers.. And a lot of must be remembering those Dad's who aren't with us now.
Sadly I didn't gave this happy relationship with my own father. Fathers Say only serves to remind me of his past excistance. Something I would rather forget

for anyone missing their dad today.

My passed dad didn’t like Father’s Day / said it was an Americanism

Nonetheless rest in peace old man x

First Father’s Day no contact with my shit of a dad.
Thankfully my children have an awesome one.

Thanks to all well wishers. My Dad died nearly 20 years ago. He wasn't much for Fathers' Day - old school pre-war chap.
My dd has a wonderful dad and I'm so happy for her.

My Dad died at Christmas and this is the first ‘occasion’ without him. Thing is if he’d been here I’d have just sent him a text, I spend most of today with DPs Dad and have for years. The hardest bit has been working out how to grieve for a parent I loved but wasn’t close to at all.

Mine is on holiday with his new wife and her children, but the DC and I have a lovely day planned for DH

No offence but some folks fathers aren’t or weren’t very nice.

I'm sure you mean well but I don't think I need a hallmarked commercial day to value my father, or anyone else's, for that matter.

My dad passed away 19 years ago. I've almost lived longer without him than I had with him. He loved Father's Day, really occasion that meant he got presents.

He was good man and great dad.

Mine is still around but a mediocre father at best. According to the wicked stepmother I should be grateful that he’s still in touch as lots of men don’t bother. I dislike Father’s Day, it takes an age to find a card that doesn’t outright lie (superdad, worlds best dad etc etc) and I hate the enforced, awkward phone conversation, where he makes it clear he’d rather hear from my brother, who went NC with him a few years back. Not everyone has a great relationship with their dad.

if my dad was worth thinking of, i'm sure i would be without a hallmark reminder

I hate these days. So upsetting for so many people and so unnecessary for the rest of us.

I'm avoiding Facebook today as I can't face all the photos and best dad competitiveness. I usually go to the cemetery early doors on Father's Day but couldn't get away this morning so will wait until later to take my flowers up.

i hate these days aswell. my childrens dad is absent and i hate it being rubbed in their faces. so hard to avoid it!

Could you be any more patronising OP??

kirsten I am very much in the same boat - it’s just over 2 years since I lost my dad and it still feels strange. I’d describe it as feeling like losing an uncle, rather than a father. My advice is to just be honest with yourself and don’t force yourself to feel any particular way. Sorry for your loss .

I know you mean well OP but actually posts like this make me ragey,some people have dad's that are unpleasant ,some that are absent

I'm lucky I have grumpy grouchy but always there for me dad and I have appreciated him and do today , as I have shown appreciation to my DC dad and my DP who takes a step dad role

But

My DP dad died a year ago after being absent and playing mind games with his brothers and my Exdh dad left because he couldn't cope with Exdh brothers disability (and did it in the nastiest ways) so why should they appreciate them in any way?

Not all dad's are good and guilt tripping posts / comments like this serve to make those without picture perfect feel uncomfortable

By all means appreciate your father and those past but leave others to their own relationships

I only had my dad in my life for fifteen years but it was an honour, I don't mean that gushingly either the man was an absolute legend. Hope the Coors is cold enough for him today 🍺. I'm sorry for the posters whose fathers are shit or not around, I've been there too and it isn't fun

My daughters Dad hasn’t seen her for 2 years, the last time he texted her was March.
I’m sure he is having a lovely day with his other children.
Days like today I feel so sorry for her and others in the same position.

I have a fantastic relationship with my father and I am very thankful of that. However I can’t help but cringe at some of the Facebook posts today because it must be so painful for those who have lost their fathers or who had/have terrible relationships.

In a way I think this (and mother’s day) are things that need to be kept more private. If you are lucky enough to have a loving father then tell them but think of others before shouting from the rooftops

Sorry but I can't buy into that sugary comment.

There are many shit fathers out there.

My DH is a lovely dad, so he'll get the appreciation he deserves.
My own "F" was a total shit who will cast a shadow over my life till the day I die. Thankfully the fucker himself died many years ago. Father's Day is a day that I am reminded of what I didn't have. Thought am also thankful my own kids do have it. So it's worth thinking how this day is going to affect others, not just because a dear father may no longer be with us.