Aibu to email headteacher

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Trying to summarise but DS, 8, made friends with a girl in year above at school, talked about her lots, said he would like to marry her etc. Later said he wasn’t friends with her anymore and said she tells tales on him for annoying her. Told him numerous times to say away from her, he says she finds him. Spoke to form teacher about something and asked about his behaviour in general, form teacher said all good apart from reports he was annoying this girl, who apparently wouldn’t say boo to a goose as a rule. Problem is her mum is a teacher in school. One lunch this week DS and friend went to this teacher who was on duty to say another boy had stolen their ball and was pudhing them, he denied it, teacher then said “ why should I believe you after everything you have denied about annoying my Dd”, aibu to Moan about this? DS moved to school this year, found it very tough and there is a 50 per cent chance he will get this teacher next year who has basically said she will always assume the worst from him. No one has ever approached me about his behaviour and as far as I am away he has never been in trouble from form teacher for annoying this girl. I feel this girls mum has blurred parent/teacher lines.

Sounds like it needs sorting out. I’d maybe have a chat with his class teacher first?

Spoke to class teacher the day before and he says he just needs to stay away from this girl but didn’t seem overly concerned. The meeting was about how DS was happier in general, but the next day was when this girls mother/ teacher spoke to him and now he is worried about having her as a teacher next year. I have never complained to school but not sure whether to go to head teacher or to this teacher direct, kind of parent to parent, but have never spoken to her before.

You need to speak to his teacher or the headteacher.
No matter what has gone on with her own child it shouldnt stop her helping another child.

I work at my dc school... they have had problems with other children just like everyone else but I couldn't imagine refusing help to one of those other children. All parent problems are left at the door! !!

YANBU but I'd probably try to make sure of the facts before emailing the headteacher.

If she's an actual class teacher I would probably speak to the head teacher. Either call or email and ask for a meeting or callback .

Sorry missed that you’d had a meeting with class teacher. Ask to meet with the head. Don’t go in all guns blazing, stay calm and state facts.

Thanks for replies. Good to hear not being too precious. Certainly won’t go in guns blazing, as under no illusions that DS has probably been highly irritating, and I am very confrontation adverse but feel he hasn’t been treated fairly.