Concert + newborn

[Rachie1986]

Right, here's the situation..

A band I like when I was a teenager and have followed since are doing their final tour.. when baby2 is due to be approx 8weeks old. I plan to breastfeed, but will probably mix feed as we did with dd1. Dd1 will be 5.

When I heard tour dates I gave up on going, rather disappointed, but DH encouraged me to think about it again. So one possible solution is that we all (me, DH, DD1 and baby) go away for a weekend to a city 2hrs or so away, get an apartment, and then on the Saturday night I can go to the concert as it'll be nearby and only be gone a few hours (rather than a lot of travel there and back). DH is more than happy to have DD1 and baby for the evening.

However, the cost of a weekend away in an apartment (not doing hotel, DD needs quiet to sleep!) plus petrol, the ticket etc is looking upwards of £350. I'll be on SMP by then to money's very tight. Plus, will I be up for going out and leaving baby, possibly missing a feed, etc? With DD1 I had PND and really would have struggled..things might be different this time?

Basically, AIBU to even start considering it with an 8w old? And with the financial implications? What would you do?

Why the bloody secrecy over who the band is? Just tell us.

Can't you take baby with you to the gig with ear defenders and in a sling? Then just you and baby can go, stay in a hotel in a single room and save money? If it's a seated gig, I don't see why not.

Me too. Why is it a secret?

Boyzone.

Is it boyzone?
I was a fan but £350 when have a new born and on Mat pay no way is that sensible

I havent been to every tour, most of them, im autistic so i find it quite hard.

Its going to be emotional isnt it?

dora would summer gigs work for you?

Yes Naught I’m hoping to get to one of the summer ones!

Which gif OP.

You may find another mumsnetter is going and may have suggestions of somewhere cheaper than the accommodation you’ve found.

Worth an ask.

I'd save your ££ for the comeback tour.
Or even the second comeback tour. Kids will be at Uni or in work, you'll have more cash and plenty of time.

Go it’s not your first so you know what it’s like. You can get the money if you want and it’s a nice treat for you to look forward to. You deserve it! It’s not like it’s a weekly event. My baby is 8 wks now could Defo do it. Went to Ed Sheeran ( but it was local) when she was 2 weeks.

Thanks everyone x

I'd be buying the DVD and saving the money given the circumstances. Your DH would have to work a good deal of overtime to stretch to the cost so if he's going to do that surely the money would be better off in savings if things are that tight so you have a safety net given you will have two children. With no money, one wage earner at the time it's very self indulgent.

Boxsets I didn't state how much overtime would be needed - wasn't aware you knew my husband and his income?
As for self-indulgent, if you read the post my husband encouraged me to go and look into alternative arrangements.
Thanks for your opinion and judgement though.

OP, don't bother with Boxsets he appears on threads to detract and generally spread his misery around carefully avoiding breaking any talk guidelines so that he doesn't get banned.

Please go. The gigs will be amazing, and as someone who has also supported them since the beginning, I couldn't imagine not going to the final tour. I think you'd regret not going.
It sounds like you have everything on place you need to be be able to make it happen.

I would do it in these circumstances. It’s one night and it sounds like the whole family will have a fun weekend.

Maybe think of it in terms of the whole weekend rather than just that one night. Your DD will appreciate some fun time and attention.

I know what your DH is suggesting is just reasonable, notmal loving behaviour but it’s still lovely of him.

I would.

I Can't wait!!!!!!! Do you think they will add an extra Dublin date???

cric i would think they'll probably have at least two dates at most of the venues already listed.

£350 to see Boyzone???

The Rolling Stones were only £150 ish!

Yep, I'd do it.
Though I got majorly judged for going on a night out when my little one was 8 weeks old. People are delightful!

If you're going to really regret it, go for it.

I would go. At worst Baby will be a bit upset - it's only 2 hours and I say this as someone who has chosen never to socialise without DS (18 months). I leave him for the few days I work and that's it. However for my favourite artists last ever tour? Yeah do it

Why is it 'nice of him' that DH is willing to stretch to looking after his children for a couple of hours? I doubt people would say that on auto if it was a mother doing the care!

I would go tbh.

I definitely would.

I'd go, but think with a 5 year old and a newborn a hotel room would be perfectly fine and you don't need to splash £350 on an apartment!

As pp have said, you only live once and if their music is important to you then do it. I might be biased though, I've been all over the place to see my favourite band (totally different genre)......

I would go, I bought DH tickets to see Eddie izzard for Christmas one year and then got pregnant. The gig was 3 weeks after Ds1 was born and I considered not going but in the end I really wanted to. With travelling and everything we left him with my mum for just over 4 hours and he was fine. In fact it was the only time he took a bottle ever as he became a bottle refuser after that

I am so excited about this tour! We really want to go to Dublin to see them but need them to add an extra date (there is a spare date the day after Dublin).