To let 20yr old DD move back home with 2 cats?

[FlyingMonkeys]

Basically that in a nutshell. DD has recently split up with partner and has 2 house cats that she wants to keep. Unfortunately we have 2 dogs that will go frigging mental if they come in the house even if separated. Told Dd she needs to get a grip and be responsible and rehome them.. Clearly I'm completely unfair 😒

That's a tough one. It would be sad if the cats had to be rehome X so I would probably try it to see if it could work. Is she moving back just while she finds somewhere else to live or is she thinking of staying a few years ? That would also affect my decision.

Rehomed not rehome X

To be totally honest she/I'm not sure how long it'll be? I feel awful as we had a cat for 9yrs previously when Dd was little and I know how loving they are. However with the dogs getting on a bit and the cats needing house room to roam it feels massively unfair to both sets of animals to try and manage it? Would house cats even adapt to going outside? Could possibly be a feasible option to work around maybe?

Can the cats be fostered in a long term temporary basis, while she gets back on h

Posted too soon, sorry!

...back on her feet? Perhaps by someone living close by

Could you try introducing them and see if it works out better than you fear? Long shot but you never know.

It sounds like she needs to make arrangements for her own cats. They could stay with a friend of hers temporarily, etc., but she needs to come up with her own solution. Just because she didn't like yours doesn't mean you're now obligated to come up with a "suitable" alternative.

“Told Dd she needs to get a grip”
Did you really tell her to “get a grip”? If so YABU and harsh

YANBU to refuse to take in the cats, though. She needs to make alternative arrangements for them. If she could get a temporary home for them it would be ideal, so she can take them back when she gets her own place.

If I was her I’d been trying to find somewhere I could move straight in with my cats.

I think it could be fun and a great bonding zone.
Animals like us have to learn to live together. And you are the pack leader. What you say goes.
Good luck