Are men horrible?

[Cheerymom]

Three long relationships with men. All has dcs, one died but still have great relationships with his two DDs second has unbeknown to me had a family ( fair enough I was in a sate of grief), current DP has two sons, under 10, whom I like and when in my care do everything to make their time with us nurturing, fun and loved. DPS family are lovely , 6 siblings ( Irish as am I) are totally supportive of me and DP; I am financially dependent and about to buy my ideal home, which in ireland is very possible as I sold London flat bought as a teacher.BUT I find every woman I am close to ( given my job) hate their husbands. They hate that they do all the emotional and practical work to keep a house with children working. From my own experience of living with third DP with two DSS, I am running ti the hills, i.e. buying my own home. Are there women who are actually happy to share their home with men ?

Am going through my second divorce at the moment, I assume all men aren’t horrible but I won’t be spending any more of my time trying to find another one.

Some of the experiences that my friends have gone through with truly horrible men has put me off for life!

My DP is awesome, he's my best friend and we are a team. I think it's essential to be great friends wih your partner.

I don't think its natural for men and women to live together long term. It worked better when woman looked after the home and men looked after earning the money. Now with 'equality' women want the perfect career and the perfect home, which just isn't compatible when living with a man who doesn't care about a perfect home.

So YANBU, I dont know any married women who particularly like their husbands.

Its funny that many of my friends are now in their 50s and have been married for at least a decade plus a bit on top.
My friend who is the unhappiest was married the youngest and so is married the longest. Her and her DH have gone through quite a bit in those years and she says she is now resenting all the growing up she missed out on. They got together when they were in their early teens, married at 22 etc. She has never had sex with anyone else.
Another friend married very late and basically married Mr. He;ll do and he has turned into Mr. Living Nightmare...they were both in their late 30s ...38 or so. They had to make massive changes and he has resented it most. He was still living at home with is mum (which to me is just a non starter) and he sees her as responsible for everything and she has jsut got on with BUT she wanted her kids so has off set the misery as the price to pay...her words not mine.
I have a DD from an earlier relationship and the best thing that ever happened to me was him leaving us. I went back to Uni. I got a career that would never have happened if he'd stayed. My DH is a wonderful man but I have had to undo certain ideas he had about what it takes to run a home and all the inviible stuff that goes on.
What is making may women unhappy these days is the realisation we have been had big time and that men are still enjoying privilidges not afforded to us, such as, decent childcare which enables us to work stress free and without bankrupting ourselves, equally divided domestic care, care of elders, equal pay, pensions, general safety as well, access to education.
The discontent that you are hearing from women is a symptom of us waking up to the lies we have been fed and forced to swallow for too long.
Come the revolution sisters.
or the menopause. which ever arrives first.

no, but some women clearly need to raise their standards. If they find out in time that their sex partner is a waste of space ( not all do) then it could be bred out.

3.5 billion fish in the sea. dont 'settle' just because others do.

CookPassBabtridge hit the nail on the head. Too many people panic about society expectations and settle to have ‘someone.’ This inevitably will fail- all my friends in relationships you described did exactly that.

If you marry your best friend it cannot fail. If you settle on someone just to be married, it cannot succeed.

For all the women who have a string of all nice guys, there's an equal number of women who unluckily get a string of rotters. Just the law of averages sadly

I was in a very abusive relationship and for a while I thought all men were sh*t. My current partner of 14 years changed all that. He is pretty amazing, loving, faithful and makes me smile pretty much every second of every day. So no, not all men are horrible but my ex certainly was

Maybe I just know a lot of moaning women. It is almost like a habit every lunch time to churn out the latest male living at home crime. I try to avoid it, its catching,