To be miffed with the school

[Fantasticday09]

So dd is in reception. She has no grandparents. Her last grandparent died when she was two. Every year the school has a grandparents day. It is annoying but she has been fine although she keeps talking about her grandmother. This is fine as I try to keep their memories alive.
This year for Mother's Day they did a generic drop in for any parents or carers as apparently they didn't want to cause upset to kids without a mum. No lovely Mothers Day fooprint like the Fathers Day ones previoudly. Yes again today a huge fuss was made of dad's with cards and gifts created.
Aibu to think that if you do these things regulary for grandparents and dads than mum's should get the same treatment.

Absolutely but was there a reason for the Mother's Day one e.g. A child had recently lost a mum?

You aren’t being unreasonable to be disappointed at not receiving something. Most people would feel disappointed. You are being unreasonable to be annoyed at school. There will be a reason they have made this decision. Maybe someone had lost their mum close to Mothering Sunday, for example.

I'm guessing that a child has lost their mother so yABU.

I would suspect there is a child who's mum has died or that gets very upset when they're reminded that mum isn't there for whatever reason.

They wouldn't have made a decision like that for no reason. Almost certainly a child at that school has recently lost their mother.

So YABU.

And losing a grandparent just isn't the same as losing a parent. Almost all kids will lose a grandparent before the age of 18, very few comparatively will lose a parent.

Not having a grandparent and not having a mother are not the same thing.

But if you think grandparents Day upsets your child you should have a word with the school.

Not aware of any child without a mum. Hi sincerely hope no child is in that position.

I agree that they’ve probably done it for a reason. Statistically, kids are more likely to not have a dad on the scene than to not have a mum. So if they are trying not to upset on Mother’s Day, it’s probably because of a child who’s lost their mum or can’t have contact with them.

It’s not the same I know, but I’m a Brownie leader and we always do craft for Mother’s Day and Father’s Day, but this year the Father’s Day was extremely low key because we have a girl who’s recently lost her dad.