Should I be annoyed at him for this

[Newbieuser1880]

So this morning my other half drove to his bosses house (30 moms away) and they rode their bikes into work together. At the end of the working day they were due to bring their bikes back in a van to his bosses house then home.

Text at 4.45 riding back to ge house. At 9pm he is having a Deon at his house hen coming home. So that’s a evening down the drain. I had no idea how late he was going to be so didn’t eat, when I got the text at 9pm i’v Me told him i’m really annoyed. If I wasn’t going to be around I would tell him I’m advance not just do it. He doesn’t get it just says i’m Going on at him. I feel he has no respect of consideration in this instance and all he needed to do was say that it’s going to be late.

Am I in the wrong to be annoyed?

Depends how often this happens I suppose, if it's a one off I'd probably be a bit put out yeah, but not overly so as unfortunately sometimes plans do change without meaning to. If it's more of a regular thing I'd be more annoyed

I do think there are under lying tensions where I feel taken for granted for and he has a lack of consideration so that’s why I am probably upset. I have told him that how I feel so to be like this isn’t great.

Also to not see why I am upset is pretty crap for me too if he was apologetic and said plans change sorry took longer etc I wouldn’t be annoyed just put out like you say. Good start to the weekend!!

Thank you for your reply though just needed someone to speak to about it

It’s really inconsiderate to just leave you dangling...a text takes seconds.

People rarely change, maybe you need to think about whether this relationship is one you want to be in.

My husband and I used to have the most blazing rows when he stayed out longer than he’d said or I expected. I’d be waiting for him to get back for dinner and he’d be texting saying he’d be back in a bit but it was getting later and later.
Turns out I was just raging because I was hungry! (I’m not good when I’m hangry).

So when he goes out now, I don’t expect him back, I sort myself out and if he’s there, he’s there. It was the lack of communication and the expectation that I’d wait for him that was annoying so I totally understand that aspect OP.

Thanks for your replies. I think it’s the lack of consideration and when I have said that he flatly refuses to see anything is wrong.

He is stubborn so that might be the reason he is being nasty to me