5 yrs ago - my Ex had an affair and went off with the unmentionable Had child, abandoned their own -well a few ONs per year and fuck all else.
2 yrs in cracks start appearing and they split up a year later. Very rocky
Ex moves out and rents somewhere- best move ever and relationship with DCs so much better for them. Them now loving Ex - yeah my tongue can now start healing!!
In the background have been deaths, personal cancer, major illness, redundancy and other major life crises on my side!! All in all a shit time.
Protracted proceedings going on in the back ground ranging from EX demanding full custody with no contact because I was going to die, they could provide a new family and I could not, to not wanting anything more to do with them, to all sorts of shenanigans.
Today I have been told I must pay for the EX to finally leave my life. They did not pay a spot of maintenance for 3 yrs, no contribution to the mortgage, expenses, other assets - transferred by Ex prior to split out of my name into new partners and their name etc etc and some bloody judge feels that I should pay for all the abuse I have been given.
What I am now being expected to pay , is double what they actually owes me from stolen accounts, assets transferred and back maintenance - will not even mention, child care costs for Exs failure to parent etc etc.
WTF - I funded EXs affair, their new life, their split and now I pay for their future life, how is this fair