To put this on the back of the invitations

[KidsPartyStress]

My Son's Birthday is the end of August and he will be having a party but I know people forget and lose invites etc over the 6 week holidays so would I be unreasonable to write something like this on the back of the invites...?

Hi. Could you text me with your number soon as I know it is a while away until the party and we won't see you through the summer so I will be texting everyone a week or so before the party to confirm details and remind everyone about the party.
Thanks!

Could you simply put

Please RSVP on 01234 567890 to let me know if you plan to come and I'll drop every one a reminder in the holidays

I think that's fair enough. I can't imagine why anyone would mind and, as you say, people can be a bit disorganised over the holidays. If I were sending it I'd delete the words "and remind everyone about the party" as it's obvious you'll be reminding them by sending the message (and it could be misconstrued as a little pushy if read by someone who doesn't know you well).

Yes I think it's perfectly reasonable. Maybe play around with the wording slightly.
We had same problem as my DC birthday mid August

TBH, if you put it on the back of the invitation I suspect most people won't notice it. If you have space on the front - main - side of the invitation, then you've probably got a better chance of people seeing it and RSVPing in time!

Good idea - youngest DD with summer hols bday so know exactly what you mean. A thought though, when you say back of the invitation, will that be in an obvious position so that it is seen ?

I have the same dilemma. Was thinking about just asking for numbers and sending invitations closer to the time. I do t expect everyone to organise their summer holidays around a 5th birthday party, but I don’t want people to agree now and pull out later. I thought if I don’t tell them the venue/time/date now then I could provide it when people have responded.

I used to hold parties in second half of the summer term.

Tell them to RSVP to a your phone number to ensure you have everybody’s number who is comming, I don’t envy you at all, when did children’s birthday parties become so stressful? My son invited his whole class and only five children turned up good luck!

Thanks everyone, I'll play with the wording and make sure it the first thing you see when you open the envelope!

It's extra stressful because it's summer bank holiday weekend which is why I want to send invites out now so hopefully people can plan around it! 🙈

Can you put rsvp by x date and make it quite early? Hopefully then you'll get responses and can text to remind about the party later. I am just organising my dd's party and finding it much more stressful than I though in terms of waiting for replies etc so I sympathise

Last year I put my number on it to rsvp and invited 10 children... Only 2 replied!

Is the party already booked? One of DD's friends birthdays is August & to avoid people missing or forgetting her party she has it the weekend after the weekend they break up if that makes sense (eg break up 20 July, party 28) all invites & replies sorted before the end of term

The issue as you say OP is most people won’t bother RSVPing. I’m not convinced they will bother to message you their number either. Isn’t there a class list of numbers or something? Then you can just text them a week before anyway

I like the wording by SleepingStandingUp

I have a similar issue with an August born’s party!

We've done the party a week after getting back into school before now invitations went out during first week back , I managed to have three kids with birthdays during holidays, I couldn't have planned them better

My DS2 has a late August birthday, parties near his birthday never worked (people forgot or were on holiday). For most of primary we did his party in July before the holidays as it was the only way to actually ensure most people would come. I would rethink your date and try to get it in before the holidays if possible.

Perfectly reasonable, word as sleeping said.

I would do it the end of July like others have suggested if you can.

Yes, fine- I'd be pleased as I would know even if I managed to forget, you'd be reminding me!

I’d say, “I know it’s too early to rsvp but please text me your number before end of term and I’ll remind / collect rsvps by text closer to the time”.

I do end of August party in the first weekend after school starts - so her friends are there.