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RSVP- WHY oh why must it be so difficult!

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Shiftymake · 15/06/2018 10:31

My ds' birthday is soon and out of all the invites I have sent out, only 1/4 of the parents have replied on a RSVP invite. I honestly do need to know the yes/no (this weekend is cutoff point for this), so why don't people show that common courtesy and reply? I am getting real upset with this. We have booked a venue based on numbers invited as one needs to do so well in advance for this venue, it is a excellent setup and perfect for the age group, the down side it is later in the day so I do understand that some will not be OK with the time and have taken this into account not expecting everyone to come. AIBU to give a careful reminder on the schools FB page as there is that many that haven't given a reply? Or other suggestions, I will admit I do not know loads of the parents but we get along with small chit chat and such but I feel foolish being forced to hunt out parents in the school yard to get replies when it's that many. Helpful advice or stories on how to solve this is welcome. Never done such a big birthday before so I am worried.

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Melliegrantfirstlady · 15/06/2018 10:34

I would ask amthe mums at pick up today. Apologise but say that the venue is asking for final numbers by tomorrow or whatever

No reasonable person will mind

Bekabeech · 15/06/2018 10:36

Go and ask people either face to face or phone them. I wouldn't do it over facebook - people might not see and its a bit "airing your dirty washing on public" to me.
People are busy, some will assume "don't reply = not going". Others will just roll up on the day. And others can confirm but then not turn up.
(Nevermind the ones who try to smuggle in siblings.)

Sweetpea55 · 15/06/2018 10:39

but I feel foolish being forced to hunt out parents in the school yard to get replies
Sometimes this it what you have to do unless you have phone numbers so can txt them,, They are being rude by not replying
Someone i know got so sick of having to do this that in the end no reply meant 'not coming'
There were a couple of parents looking sheepish when they turned up at the party and my friend said 'i assumed dc wasnt coming as you didnt reply'

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