To not go on Father's Day

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My dad died in April. We were close. Was completely unexpected. I was 36 weeks pregnant at the time.

Now baby is here and dh's family are pressuring us to go to their house for a meal on Sunday. They are lovely people but everything has been recently soured as mil lectured me about needing help for being depressed. As I pointed out I feel sad because my dad died recently and it is normal to cry!

AIBU not to go?

I'm so sorry for your loss OP
I don't think you'd be unreasonable not to go. It's completely understandable

Hey,

I don’t think it’s unreasonable not to go, the first one is the hardest. Can your DH have a word and tell her to back off?

I lost my Dad a year ago tomorrow. I cried in the card shop today buying Fathers Day cards for my husband from our kids.

Do what YOU want to do. Your DH should back you up.

So sorry for your loss

Lost my mum a few years ago. Days like this are tough, especially firsts. Honestly, I’d think about doing something that day your DF would have liked too and have a ‘tribute’ Fathers Day instead.

It’s two firsts for you. The first without your Dad and the first for your DC.

I think have a day at home just the three of you. DH can pop round to his parents to do card etc with his DF.

But no need for a massive meal/fuss.