Been with DP for six years, generally happy, we don’t live together for logistical reasons relating to kids and distance but plan to in the future.
So, he works with a girl who he gets on well with. I know, I know, oldest cliche in the book but generally they just chat at work, have no social life to speak of as she is married with two kids and her husband comes to pick her up from work or a member of her family does as she doesn’t drive. Am not insecure on that scale.
However, I have recently noticed that she comments on everything he writes on facebook. Literally she will comment on his status within minutes which leads me to believe she must have a notification set for when he posts. Sometimes the posts are just generally responsive but more and more recently they’ve been about stuff that happens at work, and today were full of innuendo about him spending a weekend away with a woman as he’s on a course this weekend.
I know that people talk about stuff on FB, and will make reference to things they know about and have done which others may not have been a part of and on the whole that doesn’t bother me. But it’s got to the point where she will make comments and one of her colleagues will join in so it becomes like a bit of a private conversation iyswim? And it’s got to the point where I feel I can’t possibly comment as I will look either desperate or as if I am gatecrashing some private conversation as I can’t add to what they’re talking about.
Have mentioned to DP and he says that I should be able to comment and that it’s all innocent on his part. It might be, but it certainly doesn’t look like it on their part. So am I overreacting?
If I were to compare it to rl it would be like two or three friends getting together in a little clique for a conversation where outsiders didn’t feel they could interrupt.
So how much of this kind of banter do you think is acceptable?
I am reticent to tell DP to get them to tone it down because I do trust him, but honestly it’s obvious that the two women, and this one in particular are making sure that DP is monopolised, and he is so bloody gullible sometimes that he doesn’t see it, and is, if I’m honest, eager to please so is unlikely to say anything to them. And if I do then I will look like the jealous gf.