To not know how to get my 2 ye old to sleep

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Ok I've always breastfed my baby / toddler to sleep but I want to drop this feed now.

So how do I get him to sleep? I literally have no idea. The only way he sleeps without feeding so the pushchair or the car which I can't do at night ?!

He's in a bed... help

It’s a long road but you can do it. Just lying down/cuddling/whatever you would do when bf but without bf. Cuddles and reassurance. He won’t like it but if you stay firm he will be settling himself in time.

Really strict routine of bath, milk, stoty bed or whatever. Then we had stair gate on the door and if he gets out of bed go in and return him to the bed saying "it's bedtime now

I would probably explain beforehand that was what I was going to do and then expect it to be tough going for a few nights.

I had this same problem. I started with a routine so bath story etc and bf. Then keep everything else the same and just cuddle. Then everything the same and just sit on bed rubbing back. At some point will try and let him get himself to sleep but happy to stick with the back rubs for now! You may find it easier to get DH/someone else to do bedtime for a few days to break the bf association.

I had same issue but it can be done! As pp have said just have a strict routine, stick to it every night and he'll soon get used to it! I replaced bf with her having cup of milk, then we'd change into pjs, brush teeth, have bedtime story then I'd cuddle her sing a song then lay her in cot. When she cried I'd go back in, give cuddle till she calmed then lay her down again and say time to sleep. I just repeated that and she soon got it and now happily goes to sleep on her own!

try and do it all a little earlier.whilst in bath actively say "right shall we read a lovely story before bed. or whatever you choose to do rubbing back,cuddles etc make sure there is time on the other end of the bf so you can do this.after the bf get the book out get into bed.
try sitting somewhere else so you have to then move to the bed for sleepy time.
do something else afterwards even if its only for two minutes after before dc falls asleep you've put a stopper in there.youve changed it.

I'm in the same situation. I'm taking a 5 night business trip next month leaving DC home with OH. He's going to establish the new "no-boob" bedtime routine while I'm gone.

I wish DH could help but he's useless when it comes to bedtime often still at work. I think I just need to set a date and no going back.

Cuddling sounds lovely. Think I will have to make sure he's really tired each night, as he's not good at keeping still.