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Daily fail naming women from Internet article

26 replies

Somethingveryrandom · 14/06/2018 05:55

In today's daily mail is an article where a women has posted on an Internet forum that her husband is forcing her to have in laws in the labour room. They have named her.

I am hoping that the women in question is not in a vulnerable position as I can only imagine what could happen if the husband finds put and he truly is forcing her to do things against her will.

Of course there is no guarantee that the husband is abusive and there may be no danger to her at all but how would the daily mail know this.

Aibu to think this is potentially very dangerous if daily mail post names of anonymous posters?

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lardymclardy · 14/06/2018 05:58

daily mail post names of anonymous posters?

How did they know her name? Genuine question.

Urbanbeetler · 14/06/2018 06:00

Unless she posted under her real name (which would be very foolish as public forums are what they are) then how did they get her name?

Original poster
Somethingveryrandom · 14/06/2018 06:25

I have no idea about her name. I'm not familiar with the forum it was posted on.

The article says she was identified as by a website. Gives impression she didn't post under her name.

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Urbanbeetler · 14/06/2018 06:26

So she wasn’t identified? Just her user name which - if it’s a public forum- is available to anyone anyway?

lardymclardy · 14/06/2018 06:39

Ah okay thanks. So it would be like the Daily Mail saying and lardymclardy responded with...

No harm done if that's the case.

ParellelReality · 14/06/2018 06:44

Is this new to you? Lots of newspapers talk about internet forums (incl MN) and their site posting names are used.

It comes down to the same advice as it has been for years. The internet is not secret. It is not a safe place. Don't post anything that you're not happy for millions of people to read.

tillytrotter1 · 14/06/2018 06:47

It was from the States, the Quora site.

Original poster
Somethingveryrandom · 14/06/2018 06:54

They posted her name

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ParellelReality · 14/06/2018 06:56

Are you going to link to the article? Because otherwise no-one really understands what you're talking about.

Bibesia · 14/06/2018 07:00

Please don't link to the article. It sounds very much as if there is every reason not to increase the traffic to it.

Original poster
Somethingveryrandom · 14/06/2018 07:02

Quote from article, the woman who boredpanda has identified as xxx shared her plight on quorate.

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Original poster
Somethingveryrandom · 14/06/2018 07:03

You know what, forget it. Obviously I am being reasonable. I'm out.

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knockknockknock · 14/06/2018 07:10

Here's the link (OP - that's all we wanted!).

It does show her name on the forum but does quote it so she must have used a real name but maybe it's not her actual name.

www.boredpanda.com/pregnancy-birth-parents-quora-answers/

If she's using her real name and posting personal stuff online then sorry she has to put up with any backlash. If Quora make you use a proper name then find another site.

SoupDragon · 14/06/2018 07:12

Are you going to link to the article? Because otherwise no-one really understands what you're talking about.

I understand. It’s not rocket science. Isn’t it basically doxxing? (Although I’m not entirely sure!)

Having read the quote, it seems the DM have lifted the story from Boredpanda who have lifted it from the forum. Boredpanda is some kind of “news”/human interest type site isn’t it?

surferjet · 14/06/2018 07:13

Op:
You do realise what you’ve done don’t you.
You’ve just made the situation a 1000 x worse by posting this on here, to let even more people know about her. Hmm

Buggered · 14/06/2018 07:15

It seems like all the respondents also have their name in full. I assume the poster knew this when she initially posted.

On another point, is the Daily Mail like a Jeremy Kyle? Nobody ever admits to reading it, but people often quote it!

Buggered · 14/06/2018 07:16

surferjet, the OP didn’t post the link, and secondly it’s in a national newspaper. I’m not sure the OP is making it worse. That ship has already sailed.....

surferjet · 14/06/2018 07:19

But because of this thread a link has been posted, and now I know about it. & so do 100’s of other people.

Serendipite · 14/06/2018 07:19

Quora users usually use real names.

Averyimportantperson · 14/06/2018 07:25

The point of the post surely was to highlight the risk posed rather than the article.

ParellelReality · 14/06/2018 07:27

If you're going to use your real name on a forum then people are going to read it. And it's well known that media sites pick things up from forums. All the time! From FB, Twitter, instagram etc. Stuff can go viral very quickly.

Missingstreetlife · 14/06/2018 07:29

She shld ltb

Singlebutmarried · 14/06/2018 07:30

That was on here too tho. A couple of days ago.

Singlebutmarried · 14/06/2018 07:31

The first quoted reply in the article was a MN user. I need to find the thread now.

MyOtherUsernameisaPun · 14/06/2018 07:36

She really shouldn't have posted on quora under her real name. Much as I loathe the Daily Mail, there's nothing preventing them from reporting on information which is already publically available. It's only doxxing and illegal if they're revealing information which isn't otherwise publically available.

Some people have very little understanding of how the internet and privacy works, it's pretty worrying.