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To go to the supermarket to "socialise"

13 replies

yellowfield · 13/06/2018 21:45

I get lonely quite a lot. I don't have a lot of friends right now, and at the minute I'm quite often at home during the day. I've had three days at home so far this week (although I was out for a couple of hours last night with the one friend that I do have) and I'm getting fed up. I feel sad and lonely. So this evening I went out to the supermarket, even though I didn't especially need anything. Sometimes it just helps to be around other people, even if I don't know them, and there's always the chance that I might bump into somebody I do know a little bit.

Is this really sad and the sort of thing I should never admit to in real life?

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ShirleyPhallus · 13/06/2018 21:46

Ah Flowers

Are there any social groups or hobby groups in your area that you could join?

Or whereabouts are you - lots of mners in your position who would gladly be your friend!

Enko · 13/06/2018 21:48

I work in a supermarket and we get lots of people who comes in to do just that.. Most of them are truly lovely and we all enjoy our 2-3 minute chat with them.

Alienspaceship · 13/06/2018 21:48

YANBU. I used to do the same on maternity leave. God bless the lovely woman on the checkout who used to chat.

Steeley113 · 13/06/2018 21:48

It’s not u. However, is there anywhere you could go to meet new people? Any local groups/exercise class or even the church? Please try and get out and about, loneliness is awful x

Kraggle · 13/06/2018 21:50

I go to the supermarket with the baby just to mooch about and spend money I don’t have. It takes up an hour of our day, dd gets out and about and I get out of the house, I’d probably not go out otherwise.

Pooshy · 13/06/2018 21:51

Nothing wrong with that, sometimes you just need to get out of the house and be around people even

GothMummy · 13/06/2018 21:53

I used to go to the library just for human interaction/conversation with the library staff, when I was on mat leave.

ObiJuanKenobi · 13/06/2018 21:53

If your in Dorset and ever fancy a chat I love meeting new people! It's a big part of my job but I'm always out and about having a chat to folk about their day and the weather. I hate to see people walking about alone looking glum!

annandale · 13/06/2018 21:53

It's fine. One of the reasons I go to my local supermarket is that I nearly always meet someone I know.

But my best socialising has come out of volunteering - preferably not gruelling stuff but helping out at Woodcraft Folk, Cubs, Guides or Brownies for example is hugely appreciated; I spent quite a long time as a member of my local parish church council seemed like eternity and also do one-off helping with local events - once you are 'on the list' you get asked and it's not difficult. I'm a big fan of putting boundaries around it if you can - that's why I like the one-off events.

Charley50 · 13/06/2018 21:53

I think it's quite common and it's fine, but could you do stuff like join a book club, or meetup.com, or a dance class, so you get more social interaction and hopefully make more friends? Thanks

DownWentTheFlag · 13/06/2018 21:54

I used to walk to Tesco every day whilst on maternity leave, just to speak to other adults.
Join the library. There are loads of social groups at my local one.

dancehowyouwannadance · 13/06/2018 21:56

It's not sad OP, not in the way you think it is. Many people are lonely. I'm sorry you're feeling like this right now. Have you told your good friend that you are lonely? Do you have any family you can talk to?

GivingUpMyDream · 13/06/2018 23:35

I work in a supermarket. Like enko said lots of people do it. I've actually made friends outside of work who've started as customers who've done just and this because I find myself lonely a lot too it helps.

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