Hi.. I would like to know who does the conflicts with your children, in your family? In my family it is absolutely me who do and I am fed up. My husbond is getting very upset within minuts of a conflict with children (10 and 15 years) and as I then asked him to stay out and let me do it - he think it is "an agreement", which he has a point in, obviously - but it is not reasonable that he cant control his temper and has no desire to learn.
He is very hard working, at work and home; also very generous with money to the kids, always want to do a bike ride, make a bon fire etc - but he just dont do conflicts.
We had an argument about it last night, where he said "but that is the agreement", and pointed that there is also things I cant do; he do most of the practicals on our farm, I dont drive in cities etc.
But it is haaaaaaard to always be the one to set bounderies and arguing with kids and I am drained emotionelly. My son has ADHD and is 15; we have a lot of arguing sometimes, My daughter is 10 and is also argumentative, and it drains me. And I feel alone in it.
I know he cant to discussions with them more than 2-3 minuts then he gets pissed of - but is it fair that a grown man (51 years old!) is not in the slightest way inclined to learn?
He has 2 kids from previous marriage, they are grown now, and he never had an argument with them as they have angel wings. (true, I know them, not at all like the kids we have at home)
I think it makes me withdraw from him. I feel like a single mum with a really hot and hard working janitor around.. - which is not all bad, obviously - but it doesnt really feel like a family.
Am I totally unfair??