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AIBU?

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To call my step father a racist

21 replies

Hermitsunited · 13/06/2018 06:49

Long story short, he is for ever following, posting and sharing stories from pages labelled "britain firsr" "make Britain great again" "white lives matter" and anything from the BNP Facebook. He accuses anyobe of a different nationality of being a terrorist, and constantly goes on about how if he wasn't white he'd have everything handed to him instead of having to work for it. It infuriates me and I've unfollowed him of Facebook and other social media but kept him as a 'friend.'
My mother doesn't think he's a racist, which I don't understand and swears he's just believing what he sees on Facebook as truth... I think he's being a moron and to believe those things and judge people like that he's a racist.

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Bananamanfan · 13/06/2018 06:56

You are correct, op. Unfriend him, don't let anyone associate his vile posts with you. I would also let him know that most of the stuff those groups churn out is fake.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/06/2018 06:59

Well of course he's racist. Not sure why you'd need anyone else to confirm it for you. Nor am I sure why you are using ableist language in a post about discrimination of one type or another.

fawkesAgain2 · 13/06/2018 07:02

@VladimirsPoutine

"ableist language"

You mean 'moron'?

You must have to work really hard to find offense at everything; or maybe you don't.

VladmirsPoutine · 13/06/2018 07:05

I'm not offended. I don't pore through threads waiting to catch the slightest whiff of a potential offensive term. I'm rather bemused by the AIBU. There doesn't seem to be one in existence. I wonder if anyone will come along and say "YABU, he is not racist, in fact we do need to make Britain great again."

NewYearNewMe18 · 13/06/2018 07:08

If people only read one (biased) "news" source - usually a social media site, then they have no alternative information to make a rational and reasoned judgment against. I've given up challenging people with those views, it's like a pigeon shitting on a chess board, they don't want to hear it, they all buy into the very clever mantra of BF forever posting poppies and 'our heros' type memes without the brain cells to understand 'our fathers' actually fought against the far right and fascism.

Sorry, actually,no Im not sorry, I look at BF style regurgitate posters and think there is a viable case for eugenics and compulsory sterilisation. They muddy the gene pool.

Hermitsunited · 13/06/2018 07:11

My AIBU was because like I said my mother has told me I am unreasonable to call him a racist over these things. If I'm told he's not a racist by some then I'm going to ask if he is to others

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Hermitsunited · 13/06/2018 07:12

@VladimirsPoutine and when someone is behaving like an uniformed moron I'm going to call them one, it's not discrimination it's truth

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feral · 13/06/2018 07:26

If he wasn't white he'd have it all handed to him? Seems he's too stupid to understand white privilege!?

Vile and racist and your mum too if she can't see it, sorry.

greendale17 · 13/06/2018 07:39

He is a racist and I would have nothing more to do with him.

MissionItsPossible · 13/06/2018 07:40

Well clearly he is. And ‘moron’ isn’t really offensive.

MissionItsPossible · 13/06/2018 07:40

Don’t know how ‘really’ creeped in there^. ‘Moron’ is not offensive at all.

Hoopaloop · 13/06/2018 07:50

LTB

jamoncrumpets · 13/06/2018 09:23

My DF's partner's family are all like this. I refuse to socialise with them.

wannabestressfree · 13/06/2018 09:36

Lots of people I know who I would view as quite intelligent share that view that 'foreigners' get the best council houses, most benefits, freebies etc.
In fact when I moved into an adapted property along with lots of others of varying nationalities the person who is most vocal is the one who is committing benefit fraud and growing drugs openly. Social services and the police are aware but seem intimidated by them..... so leave them alone.

PsychoPumpkin · 13/06/2018 09:41

My aunt is the same, it’s incredibly disappointing and I think I ignore her behaviour because she’s in her 70s, but it’s not okay to say and post the things she does.

crispysausagerolls · 13/06/2018 09:59

A close relative of mine recently started to come out with holocaust denial. DH is Jewish, and we are both absolutely horrified.

Hermitsunited · 13/06/2018 10:21

@crispysausagerolls Wow that's terrible. How on earth can a person deny something so horrific! I hope your DH isn't treated badly by this person.

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crispysausagerolls · 13/06/2018 14:08

Hermitsunited

He really likes DH, which makes it extremely weird. He just genuinely believes the shit he is coming out with and therefore can't see how it's offensive. All of us who don't agree are "ignorant". I assume it's a similar attitude to your stepfather!

Hermitsunited · 13/06/2018 18:28

@crispysausagerolls
Almost ignorant, we are just "snowflakes" and obviously soft apparently. If he just went on about terrorists I'd agree as terrorists are awful but it's not, it's anyone which even a slight tan!
I don't think you can argue with your relative, just like I can't argue with mine. Even when the evidence and facts are thrown in their faces they don't believe anything but their own warped sense of fact

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Hermitsunited · 13/06/2018 18:28

Sense of fact makes no sense... ignore that last part 😂

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Octopeppa · 13/06/2018 20:31

Yes, he is a racist.

He isn't necessarily wrong that Britain could do with becoming greater (and there are many possible definitions of that), but it's up to all of us, whatever race we are.

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