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AIBU?

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To find this annoying?

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Butterflykissess · 12/06/2018 17:28

i live in a ground floor mainsonette. my neighbours above me dont have a garden (which i do.) they have a shared path with me and next door (ground floor.) and the other neighbour upstairs. the people above me keep throwing out large items (think sofa, mattresses 2 of them) but they are placing them against the wall on the street of my garden. it looks really horrible. and obviously people assume it mines. its really unsightly! aibu to find this annoying?

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FrolickingForklift · 13/06/2018 05:41

Have you spoken to them about it?

Strugglingtodomybest · 13/06/2018 05:49

If this happened to me and it bothered me, I would give myself a stern talking to about what matters in life and move on.

icelollycraving · 13/06/2018 05:52

It will look unsightly but I don’t think 3 or 4 days is too bad. You could stick a sign on it saying ‘Flat C being collected by council’ if you are worried people will think it’s you. In terms of you being cross about them leaning it against your wall, yabu.

StepBackNow · 13/06/2018 05:56

You haven't said where you think they should store it until it can be collected.

Sammyham · 13/06/2018 06:17

Unsure why people are giving you grief, would they want a tip on their door step?

It's fly tipping, I'd report them to your local council, it's their responsibility to hold on to these items in their home until they are collected for removal.

Sorry, some neighbours/ people have no consideration for others or their surroundings!

KittyHawke80 · 13/06/2018 09:28

They can ‘store’ it back inside their home. Y’know - from whence it came?

ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 13/06/2018 09:32

You can tell there's people on this thread that are the sort to leave a sofa out front for a year

I assume you mean me? You’re wrong. I’ve never had to dump furniture in anyone’s front garden. I’ve never even used the kerbside collection. I can take it to the tip myself.

Storm4star · 13/06/2018 09:45

It's ok to find it mildly annoying but when you look at all the neighbour disputes that can go on, things like excess noise, or downright nasty neighbours, you need to keep these things in proportion. I have a shared drive with downstairs and she has moaned at me for putting things out there for a day or two (even though its half mine and doesn't affect her at all!) and I got so fed up of her whinging over minor stuff (when she is no angel, her garden is a forest of weeds!) that in the end I just said to her straight "oh for goodness sake, stop complaining all the time". Her name begins with M and our whole family just call her "moany M" now (among ourselves). You don't want to be "that" person.

Thymeout · 13/06/2018 09:53

They leave it propped against your wall because it's closest to their flat. It's all they've got as a 'curtilege', which is where the council has told them to leave it for collection. Down the side or round the back isn't what they've been asked to do. It could obstruct the path or be overlooked. The council aren't going to go looking for it, if it's not visible from the kerb.

You don't know when the council said they'd come. They could be late collecting it. And if it's a sofa, they'd need to remove it from their flat to fit in the new one. They may have to get a friend to help to move bulky waste downstairs. It's not even in your garden, but outside, propped against the wall.

Really, for a matter of days, I think you're making a fuss about nothing.

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Butterflykissess · 13/06/2018 10:02

they could have left it across the road. its funny how none of the other flats leave junk piled up outside. its unsightly.

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Storm4star · 13/06/2018 10:09

I never understand why people post in AIBU if they can't handle being told they're BU. Some people have agreed, some haven't. But the people who think YABU aren't going to change their minds no matter how unsightly you say it is! It's a few days. Let it go!

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Butterflykissess · 13/06/2018 10:11

why should i let it go if its 50-50. next time it happens i will be reporting it for fly tipping.

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Strugglingtodomybest · 13/06/2018 10:30

You sound like a nightmare neighbour!

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Butterflykissess · 13/06/2018 10:34

oh yeh im a real nightmare for not wanting rubbish dumped outside my house that isnt even mine! i agree with the sofas in garden comment

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ZibbidooZibbidooZibbidoo · 13/06/2018 10:56

They’re ornamental

worridmum · 13/06/2018 10:58

Its not fly tipping tough as it is what the councils tell people to do.

The council tell people to leave the stuff outside their property as they do nit knock on doors go looking for said items.

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Butterflykissess · 13/06/2018 11:03

actually my council says to leave it out the night before not 4 days. i suspect they just wanted it out their house rather than the council just not coming to get it as my council are pretty good.

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Strugglingtodomybest · 13/06/2018 11:26

But it's not just your house is it? Your neighbours upstairs own/rent half of it. It's been 'dumped' outside their house too.

So you're going to report them to the council, who are the ones who told them to put it there, for fly tipping, which it isn't?

love it!

melj1213 · 13/06/2018 11:36

Its not fly tipping tough as it is what the councils tell people to do

Actually, by my council rules it would be fly tipping. Any large items that people have arranged for the council to collect must be kept on the residents property (eother in the building or in their yard) until the day of collection.

I live in a terrace where people are always dumping furniture in the back street outside their gates and the council class that as fly tipping even if the item is one that the resident has arranged for the council to collect at a later date.

The council tell people to leave the stuff outside their property as they do nit knock on doors go looking for said items.

Again that depends on the council. My council's "bulk waste collection team" don't just turn up and take items, they knock on the door and speak with the resident as our BWC team allocate every collection a 10 minute window so residents often have more than one item.

Even if items have been left in the back street they will try to contact the resident first to confirm the items left out are the ones they have arranged for collection and to hand over the collection paperwork. If the residents aren't in then they will leave an invoice stating what they had collected, posted through their letterbox.

crispysausagerolls · 13/06/2018 11:40

OP YANBU and I don’t understand how people think this is fine. They should put the stuff out for collection the night before, and if they wanted to put it out for longer they should have asked you. It looks ropey as fuck having furniture on the front garden.

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Butterflykissess · 13/06/2018 11:42

ive just checked the councils website and it does also state it shouldnt be blocking the pavement, so im sure the council would be interested.

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Weezol · 13/06/2018 11:47

The council really won't be interested. I don't know if you're aware, but over the last eight years, they have had significant budget cuts and thousands of council employees have lost their jobs.
If this is the biggest issue in you life, count your blessings and get a grip.

QueenB14 · 13/06/2018 11:48

I do think it is annoying and you have a point with it being against council guidelines etc so yanbu there but with the "it looks like its mine" and "it looks scummy" comments, I don't think I would care so much what some random passers by were thinking tbh maybe that sounds bad but somebody raising an eyebrow as they drive past my wall because there is a sofa out front would have no impact on my life at all.

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Butterflykissess · 13/06/2018 11:55

who said it was the biggest issue? its an annoyance. like most problems on here.

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DesignStatement · 13/06/2018 16:28

No idea why you are getting such stick OP. If all neighbours cared what their house frontage looked like we’d all live in nice neighbourhoods.

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