Would you date a close neighbour?

[MrsJimmyPerez]

This evening my neighbour came over and asked me out on a date. I find him attractive and he asked in a really sweet, quite formal way. I was a bit surprised as I’m guessing he’s at least 10 years younger than me but we’re both single so no reason not to. Except....

I’m really worried I could be shitting in my own nest! His house is directly across the road from me, he lives in one side of a semi and his parents (also very nice neighbours) live in the other semi. My experience of relationships is that sooner or later they all go horribly wrong so going out with such a close neighbour seems reckless. I moved here about a year ago and love where I live. Even one bad date would be so awkward when I see him everyday.

But it was really nice, and surprising, to be asked out. I’ve been happily single for 4 years and have just recently started thinking it’s time to start looking around again

AIBU to say no to something that could be at least nice and fun because it feels too close for comfort?

Accept the date, you never know he could be your true love

okay!

Accept it! If he's nice, even if it doesn't work out you should be able to live near each other without problems. But hopefully it will! Good luck !

NO!
I did in the past and the fallout was fucking horrific.
I'd never date anyone that lives within a 5 mile radius.
Never again.

Lucky you! Go for it

Accept, be nice, treat it as a getting to know your neighbour as a friend.

Oh Tommy I can’t bear to ask what happened Yes that’s a good idea lelly

It’s not just him, though, it’s his parents too.

But if they all seem like good eggs then I guess why not but for me I’m not sure, if it did all work out, I’d want to live that close to the in laws which seems to be his preference.

I just like space though lol

Me too Middle I think that even if was going well I’d feel like I had no privacy with our houses and gardens facing each other. I need my privacy even when in love!

My Ex, his Sister, Mum, Brother, all live minutes away.

Tbh, it spurs me on to bother with my appearance, because I don't want to bump into them and look rough.

He has also "dated down" (I hate that expression but there's history around that) since splitting with me, which is nice to see.

Go for it, clearly by you reactions to positive feedback you want to pursue it otherwise it'll always be a what if

But can't be doing with bothering with my appearance when I'm at home, nipping to the shop, whatever. Tbh I'm a bit of a slob. But I suppose if he's already seen me in my drinking morning coffee in the garden in my pjs, emptying my bins and picking up the cat shit he already knows that.

i wouldnt.

Better than a work colleague
DO IT !!!!

Don’t shit on your own door step

They say this For a reason if it doesn’t work out you have to live next door

Unless it’s love and your pretty sure it will last I would steer clear

Don't shit where you eat

Go for it, with bells on! Who knows who we are meant to fall in love with and this guy could be your lobster. Enjoy every minute.X

This thread was posted in June 2018.

I would but I’ve had it go wrong in the past. In my final year of uni I dated a guy from the flat next door. And he ended going from being a very easygoing guy to a right weirdo when we broke up. He put eggs through the letterbox!

@MrsJimmyPerez so what happened then, all these years later?? 😁

Haha what a blast from the past! I said yes and we went out for a drive through the countryside to a nice pub, sat outside in the sunshine chatting and drinking coffee. It was pleasant enough couple of hours but I very quickly realised we didn't have anything in common and I found him a bit boring.

So when we got home I thanked him for a nice trip out but said that I wasn't interested in dating at the moment. He took it graciously and we went back to being neighbours who smile and have brief chats in passing. He now has a girlfriend who has moved in with him and he seems happy. And I'm still happily single.