To find her accent annoying?

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Friend comes from Scotland. Doesn’t sound in the slightest bit Scottish, says when she goes home her accent comes out in full force. Talks non stop about Scotland and put out little snippets of her Scottish accent.

Then today found out she’s lived in England since she was 4 months old.

Yanbu. I have a close relative who emigrated years ago. Her English accent is stronger and posher than it was when she lived here, it's like, where she lives, she's trying to be Uber English.

I think my English accent has got more English in the decade I've been living in the US. I'm not sure why. The weird thing is that when I hear English accents now I think they sound ridiculous.

But why does it annoy you?

Would you feel the same about someone with English parents growing up in Wales and still speaking in an English accent? Or someone with a parental Oxford accent who hadn't turned Brummie?

Or are some accents perceived as more "normal" than others?

Why any one would want to be Scottish and live in Scotland I don't know.

It's fucking baltic & there's glasweigans everywhere

Hey you, you're CLAIMED!*

I'll be yer hauners!

Ah the Glasweigan accent reminds me of a fireman I once knew.....

Baltic weather conditions matterless back then ...

I was born in the Midlands and moved to NE Scotland with my family (for employment) when I was 5.

Starting school was horrendous so started picking up the accent to try to fit in (didn't work and the bullying was relentless). I'm now 37 years old and I constantly talk in an accent that isn't mine except for when I visit or called my mother and I naturally slip back to Midlands accent which takes a couple hours to fade and then I'm talking in a scottish accent again....it's annoying it's like I don't have an identity of my own ffs but I can't stop the accent switching I don't even know I am doing it!

Oh and I regularly get "Someone's been talking to their mother today!" from Scottish friends and my Geordie partner who thinks it is hilarious.

I don't know how I feel about it but when it gets pointed out to me I get very self conscious and try not to talk much.

@SusanneLinder Dragged here by father (who then ditched us) and if I could move back south tomorrow...I would!

I was born if Scottish Mother, Southern English Father, left Scotland at 6 weeks as my DF was in the RAF.
Settled in Southern England at 14.
Usual accent is BBC English ( quite common with Forces Children now in their 50’s)
Married a Forces Scotsman 20 years ago, with a very strong Stirling accent, but we settled in Southern England when he left the Army.
BUT .... get me angry drunk or emotional and it’s broad Scots 😁

I'm Australian, dh is Irish and dc were born in London. Both say a few words with an Irish accent obvioualy from dh but generally have slighlty posh English accents.

We are moving to Aus soon and both will start to sound like me which dh is dreading

My mum has a very peculiar accent - German father, Geordie mother and grew up in the Scottish Borders but has lived in Yorkshire for the last 35 years

I was brought up in the North but have lived abroad or in the south for more years than I did in the North. When I talk about my accent, or go up north, by accent gets stronger. It just happens.

Ah the Glasweigan accent reminds me of a fireman I once knew.....

Baltic weather conditions matterless back then ...

I couldn't decide whether to go with "show off" or "lucky cow".

Either is appropriate.

English born and raised but for some reason i mimic the other person i am talking to. Not a lot. They dont notice. But i notice. The style of talking and words and sometimes a slight accent. But they probably think i am just like them but i am subcobciously mirroring! I only noticed it a couole of years ago!

Strange thing was he unplugged every appliance whenever we left his place, even those stupid alarm clocks you had to reset every time!!
But smoked in bed!!
Ah lucky lucky days.

If she chooses to speak in a Scottish accent that's fine.
It's not as though she has no connection with Scotland.
If her parents retained their Scottish accents then she will have been brought up in that household and theirs would have been the accents she heard the most.
It must seem natural to her and is obviously proud of her roots.

I hate when someone says they are half English or half Scottish

FWIW my DM is Scottish, my DF is English. I was born in England and raised in Scotland. Probably the definition of this 'half' nonsense.

Since I have lived in Scotland from 18 months old and have a Scottish accent, I am Scottish. I'm not 'half' anything. People like labels too much.

many english people (at least in the south east) randomly do west country accent when they're feeling a bit awkward. Just something I've noticed.

Agree with PP saying it's probably from one or both parents. My DC have lived in continental Europe all their lives but they still speak English with my northern accent.

But my dc are half Australian and half Irish narked. They are very different cultures not like Scotland and England which fall under the country of the UK anyway.

And both dc are not English. Their birth certs are Irish and Aus dual nationality.

Oh god, I 'mirror' accents - I can't help it. I try not to, but I'm not really aware of doing it and I know how annoying it is to the 'natives'. When a party of Welsh people came into the shop the other day I had to stay absolutely silent so they wouldn't think I was either a) from the same place as them and start asking me about 'home' or b) royally taking the piss.

It's an affliction, I tell you! We should have a Society!

I'm Scottish, lived here all my life and I'm frequently told I don't sound Scottish. Apparently I have a transatlantic twang/intonation, as if I'm trying to be American! I sound nothing like any of my friends or family. I do have Aspergers though and I've read that weird accents are quite common among people on the spectrum - perhaps I grew up copying TV shows or something.

I have a Portuguese friend who studied in Ireland and has a perfect Irish accent when speaking English

I have a few friends who are Scottish and after a few hours with them I tend to adopt a bit of an accent. Only a slight twang but I end up saying Aye instead of yes and everyone is Hen. I don't know I'm doing it though.

"If you like her, you should see this as a funny, even endearing, little quirk of hers, not as something annoying. Who cares whether it’s natural or an unimportant little pretence? Everyone is presenting their chosen image of themselves, especially when you’re young. Be kind to your friends."

Amen! People are so awful these days. I'm glad I don't have any pals.

My old school friend was born and raised in England but has Scottish parents. He and his siblings talk in a broad Nottingham accent naturally, but in front of their parents/on the phone to them etc they adopt Scottish accents (and not particularly good ones at that ). Have always found it very bizarre - I wonder do his parents even know that when they're around other people, they speak in an English accent?

BTW, my parents were both Irish but moved to England and I was born and raised in Notts. So I have a Notts accent. I would have cringed at the thought of doing a fake Irish accent in front of them all the time.

I was born in England, never lived in scotland (but visited quite a bit) to Scottish parents.

I have a strange accent. People like YOU made it a fucking nightmare to grow up in England with your horrible comments, judgemental views and ridiculous accusations of faking it.

People can't help their accents OP. Stop being a twat.

It's more normal for your accent to change depending on who you're talking to than it is for it to stay the same. If you're making the same sounds yourself, it helps you process what other people are saying. People who think it's fake are weird.

Also, why would you hate how anyone else labels their own national identity, narked? If they were labelling yours that way, that would be understandable, but they're just trying to make sense of the position they're in.

It's not as if people with complex national backgrounds are very visible, culturally, so they don't get much help, and there's no agreed rule for how to describe oneself (despite what those bigoted "A dog born in a stable" shitheads have to say on the matter) so everyone just has to figure it out for themselves the best they can.