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Harassment at work?

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Butterflykissess · 11/06/2018 18:28

Posting this on behalf of a friend but she wanted opinions as shes not on this site.

Hi I work in a school as a SEN teacher and I’ve been having issues with my line manager who has quite frankly been bullying me. It’s caused me so much stress with the constant observations and rude remarks. All the stress has caused my asthma to worsen and I’ve had more time off this school year than before.

Following an observation she reported me to the leadership team for lack leadership skills because I went to the toilet once and let my senior teaching assistant step up while the children had their snack. During the meeting with the leadership team and was very emotional because I was made to feel like a bad teacher. I told them I was at my wits end and wanted to leave. They said things would change and for some time they did.

A few months later on a Friday I asked to leave 1 hour early to collect my emergency asthma pumps before the surgery closed for the weekend. My line manager gave me grief about it saying I should do it in my own time but eventually let me go. She said I need to do it in my own time and plan my medication better.

Anyway I went back in on Monday and I had an absence review and she said in the meeting they are not paying me for the one hour on the previous Friday and I said well that’s a breach of the policy as the policy says you do as long as I provide evidence medical appointment you will be paid. Anyway it was really unpleasant review and I felt under attack. She said I’m not managing my asthma well enough so they have decided they will deduct my pay for the hour. I said the other lead didn’t have an issue with me leaving because he could staff me as it was a medical app and Friday afternoon so he was fine with it . So MY line manager was like why did you go to him he is not your line manager and he can’t say that. So I knew she would have a go at him so after the meeting I went to his room because I was so upset and worried in case he would be in trouble and she was on the phone to him having a massive go at him. Making it sound like I’ve put the blame on him.

The next day I spoke to the deputy and I was so upset. I was crying because I had enough. I said I feel like I’m being discriminated against because of my medical needs and I’ve had issues with the same line manager before. I said I’ve been really unhappy recently and he had the audacity to Say if I am unhappy at the school I should consider other options. He said my line manager is not there to provide emotional support, she is just implementing policy in her own way. He said if I have a problem with my line manager I should go to her. I felt so let down so I left and went straight to the dr and he signed me off with anxiety.

I’m too scared to be there because my asthma can set off at any moment. I know I want to leave but I’ve missed the resignation deadline so I can’t get out till December. They have put me in the hardest class next year and I know it’s down to her.

Aibu to think this is wrong??

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abbsisspartacus · 11/06/2018 20:49

Asthma is really bad at the moment the high pollen count and humid weather catches even the most prepared off guard has her doctor tried mokolust? (Sp?) It's a tablet taken alongside inhalers helps control the asthma

Butterflykissess · 11/06/2018 21:01

shes very grateful for all the advice. i will advise her to make an acc as its easier than going back and forth but she doesnt generally use social media but i will suggest it to her.

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sonjadog · 11/06/2018 21:04

Is she using up a full asthma inhaler in the course of one night?! If that is true, then she needs to see the doctor asap. That is far from normal use, even in times of high pollen.

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