There is a long back story to those so apologies. I'll start with the sister but his mums an issue too.
I've never had a good relationship with his sister, and have known her for four years. She stole around £20 from me in one go and then a couple weeks later used a tablet a friend had lent me and spent around £6 on it on apps. Her mum paid me back the £20 but I never saw the app money. Not as big a deal but she also steals my food and alcohol that I have there (usually order a pizza and then leave some for the next day but she'll take sone either without asking or takin more than she asked for). She'll then lie about whatever she's taken.
She then tries to make me feel awful by saying she preferred my partners exes or saying he was a lot happier with them.
On Saturday I broke down going to their house and had to walk back as my phone died. I bumped into her as I went through the village and she called her mum saying I'd broken down and karmas a bitch all whilst laughing.
My nan died recently and I mentioned how one of my family members would soon be celebrating their first birthday without her there to which she replied "oh no one less present"
So many other things have happened with her but these are the ones that really stand out.
I used to have a good relationship with my partners mum but recently I fell pregnant. I then started to realise that actually the people who had been trying to warn me of how awful she is were right. She said she'd give the child food to make her the preferred grandmother, told me I would use a dummy even though I told her I didn't want to, tried to change my mind when I said I wanted to breastfeed. She also offered to convert one of the bedrooms into a room for me, partner and the baby which obviously sounds lovely but I now realise was an attempt to keep her son close and to be over involved with the baby.
I actually lost the baby towards the end of April and she's been very insensitive despite having had two miscarriages herself - one of which is so painful for her she won't even talk about it. She's now tagging me in Father's Day things which I actually would have bought had I still been expecting but now are just so hurtful to see. I haven't outright said it's painful to see these things but when she was talking about it even a blind person could have seen I was uncomfortable and didn't want to carry on the conversation - I'd have walked away had we not been in a car.
And when my nan died I was at their house when I was told. We'd planned a bbq the next day already, and she said "it can be our celebration of your nanny's life". Which again sounds lovely but she never knew my nan, she's only ever spoken to my mum and that's been maybe three times so how could that family possibly celebrate her life.
I'm totally prepared to hear I'm being unreasonable about this or why I'm feeling so angry at some of these things but am I unreasonable to hate these people, and to want to leave my boyfriend because of them?