Should I ask?

[Bearlover16]

If DH has been invited to a stag would it be rude of me to ask when the hen is? You know, politely drop it into conversation. Or wait to be asked?

They came to our wedding. DH knows groom more than I know bride though.

I don't want to look like a CF.

If you are invited surely you would know?

Are you good friends with the bride? I recently was maid of honour at a wedding and my DH didn’t go to the stag.

It’s not rude to find out but I don’t think it’s a given that you’re invited to the hen just because your DH is going to the stag.

You're already looking like one on here, so say nothing.

If you are meeting up with her you could just ask her something general about it but if they are more DH's friends than yours she may just not have invited you! Personally I wouldnt ask I would wait to be invited.

They came to our wedding

Ah, but did she come on your hen do?

No, you shouldn't.

You say you are not as close to the bride to be. Do you socialise regularly, see each other independently of your partners?

I wouldn't assume that just because I was invited to the wedding that I was also invited to the hen do. She could be keeping it to very close friends and family only.

If you are invited you will get an invite, don't invite yourself

DO NOT ASK

If you're not that close to her you probably not invited though, Brides don't usually invite every female guest to the hen do's, it's usually just close friends and family, isn't it?

DH has been to many stag dos where I haven’t been to the corresponding hen do, and vice versa. Is she a close friend? If not, then why would you expect to be invited?

Wait to be asked. I don't think I've ever been invited to a hen do for one of DH's friends' weddings.

You actually look like a CF.

Even though you came to their wedding it is not a given that you are invited to the bride's hen do unless she knows you well.

Wouldn’t expect the asked the hen just because h was going to the stag.

Don't ask. It's a night for her old mates......... I wouldn't think i was invited at all. I also hate that shit. why would you want to go.? Hell.

NO then she'll feel she has to ask and u won't know if she really wants u there! Did she come to yours?

Thanks everyone!

I won't ask. The stag is a 4 day thing in a villa abroad.

I assume she might be doing similar.

How weird, DFiance has his stag this weekend, most of the girlfriends/wives of his friends didn't come on my hen last week, why would they? Yes I've been to their weddings, but they're not my friends...

Some women have big Hen Dos. Some invite a few of their closest friends and family. Some have family only. Of course don't ask.

But how is your DH going to the stag related to whether or not you will go to hen? They're not usually couples invites!

I'd pay good money not to have to go to a hen do 😂

Don't ask. Weddings are one thing; stag/hen invite lists can be subtly different. I was delighted to have DH's friends' wives at our wedding, but they didn't come to my hen do any more than some of my friends' husbands would have assumed they'd be on the stag do with DH.

Did she come to your hen do?

Normally that's close female friends and family. Would you consider yourself either?

Your husband going to the stag doesn't mean you are automatically invited to the hen party.

And no please don't ask. If she wishes to invite you she will.