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AIBU?

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About DHs new breakfast habits?

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isthismummy · 10/06/2018 11:47

I’m six months pregnant so that could be affecting my judgement.

Over the last month or so DH has started eating some (IMO) really odd things for breakfast, and it’s seriously turning my stomach.

His go to favourite is now a cheese and quorn bacon slice or egg mayonnaise sandwich (sometimes all three ingredients together) He says he’s sick of toast, beans, cereal etc and that in other countries eating different things for breakfast is totally normal. I suppose I can’t really argue with that, but I can’t help being somewhat revolted by it. It doesn’t help matters that I went off quorn soon after falling pregnant and the sight/smell of it still makes me feel queasy,

I was looking forward to having a lie in with him this morning, until he went to the kitchen and came back eating quorn cocktail sausages! I’ve had to get up now cos I can’t stand being near him while he smells of quorn.

AIBU to want a husband who just eats cornflakes like a normal human being? I can’t even eat breakfast in the same room as him because my stomach can’t take it!

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LizB62A · 10/06/2018 14:52

@isthismummy

Yup - it's not like bread normally smells of much at all

BoneThugs · 10/06/2018 14:59

I sympathise. I had such bad morning sickness with my dd that I couldn’t even stand dh’s aftershave! I don’t know why the smell of it made me gag. Couldn’t stand the smell of the dish soap, coffee, tea, eggs. Pretty much everything made me gag at one point. Luckily my DH is a gem and used to take his aftershave with him and put it on after he left, then would shower as soon as he got home. Mind you, I hated the smell of his shower gel too!!!

LeighaJ · 10/06/2018 15:00

isthismummy

It's inconsiderate of your husband to eat something in front of you that he knows makes you nauseated. You getting nauseated by it is out of your control while him choosing to eat it right next to you is well within his control.

I guess if you vomited in his face the next time he breathes on you with that stench on his breath, then he might feel differently about where he chooses to eat.

ScrubTheDecks · 10/06/2018 15:01

You need to suggest a variety of foods that he could eat that don’t affect you.

Or ask him to think of some other alternatives.

Can he knock up drop scones or pancakes? Halloumi is cheap in Lidl and makes a nice breakfast fried or grilled. Tomatoes or mushrooms on toast, Spanish omlette, poached eggs on spinach, banana sandwich, fruit salad..... Hot dog made with not-quorn veggie sausages.

Raven88 · 10/06/2018 15:03

Since you are pregnant I think DH should not be eating that if it's making you feel sick. I've never been pregnant but I feel like he should take that into consideration.

RedForFilth · 10/06/2018 15:19

like a normal human being my abusive ex would say stuff like that to me. Like he was trying to make me feel embarrassed or ashamed for usual behaviour.
Asking him to eat it downstairs is fine. Trying to make him out to ne disgusting isn't.

Juells · 10/06/2018 15:22

@ScrubTheDecks

You need to suggest a variety of foods that he could eat that don’t affect you.

The female socialisation that feminists complain about obviously passed me by completely 😂

Suggest a variety of foods? His plate of smelly egg and quorn would be heaved out the window if he'd been asked once and had done it again.

Wavescrashingonthebeach · 10/06/2018 15:24

He can eat what he likes but if he knows the smell is knocking you he should keep it away & brush his teeth after.
And yuck to him eating it in bed.
Theres a good way to show him how horrible that is- put a load of toast crumbs on his side of the bed, then when he complains, say "oh sorry darling, i thought you thought it was ok to eat in bed? Lets ban food from the bedroom now then".
Job done

mostdays · 10/06/2018 15:25

As his preferred food makes you feel sick during pregnancy you're well within your rights to ask him to eat it in a different room, but it would be insane to think you can dictate that he doesn't eat it at all because you don't think it's 'normal' breaks food!

ScrubTheDecks · 10/06/2018 15:44

That’s fine Juells.
I don’t think the OP should put up with being made to feel queasy but sometimes men and women can approach an issue to mutual advantage by saying ‘could you do this rather than that ‘.

It is a tactic open equally to all sexes.

And I would deem it pretty poor if a man chose to throw his female DP’s food violently put if the window because he didn’t like the smell.

I bet a thread about that would illicit at least one use of ‘Emotionally abusive”.

He needs to be considerate, sensitive and respectful of his partner’s sensitivities while pg, she could get what she wants by sugggesting alternatives that he might not have thought of.

Marriage. Give and take.

Juells · 10/06/2018 16:00

@ScrubTheDecks

I don’t think the OP should put up with being made to feel queasy but sometimes men and women can approach an issue to mutual advantage by saying ‘could you do this rather than that ‘.

Haha you're right, I've just been feeling really cranky after reading loads of threads here where women are being horribly abused and think they need to 'reasonable' and 'discuss it' with their DHs.

BowKay · 10/06/2018 16:03

Those combinations sound disgusting to me too OP. He shouldn't eat stuff in the bedroom if it's making you feel sick.

ScrubTheDecks · 10/06/2018 16:05

Juells . I do see that ‘you need to...’ is often a precursor to a woman taking all the emotional and practical load of any given problem.

WowserBowser · 10/06/2018 16:09

Yes that would piss me off. If my DH eats something garlicy or oniony, I have to sleep with my head at the other end of the bed. Im even worse when pregnant.

Don't get me started on people eating noisily. It used to make me want to cry.

DianaPrincessOfThemyscira · 10/06/2018 16:11

None of those things sounds particularly odd to me - but then I couldn't bear DH's coffee breath when pregnant and had to keep him away from me so I totally get you . I worry about the relationships other people have where you have to have a serious conversation about this type of thing instead of just saying "that smell is knocking me sick stay away!"

LemonysSnicket · 10/06/2018 16:24

I never eat cereal. I usually have eggs, cheese or pastry. Maybe fruit. Cereal is grim.

CloudCaptain · 10/06/2018 16:29

Ltb for eating food upstairs at all. Hope he cleans up the crumbs after himself.
Yanbu that he can eat his stinky, weird breakfast downstairs when you're having a lie in.

Debfronut · 10/06/2018 17:14

isthismummy yep he thought I was making a fuss about nothing and one night came in from a meal out with his workmates (indian meal) and breathed in my face to wake me up for a laugh. Cue me waking up with a jump, breathing in and promptly vomiting all over the bed and him. As I say taught him a lesson. I moved to the spare room.

Juells · 10/06/2018 18:19

I moved to the spare room.

and left him with the vomity bed. I like it 😂

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