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To be thinking about splitting up with my partner when I’m 8 months pregnant ?

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Mowly75 · 10/06/2018 00:26

... we’ve had sex twice in the past year; he’s distant & estranged a lot. I’m very emotional & throughout the pregnancy I’ve just wanted to be close to him, physically, sexually & emotionally. It ain’t happening. He’s impatient & angry most of the time. He’s really struggling with depression & is on medication (not the kind that kills your sex drive btw) & he’s incredibly anxious about the financial commitment of having a child (we’re both self employed). The situation is complex & I have a lot of sympathy for him, but ultimately I feel upset & lonely most of the time. The lack of sex & intimacy is really getting to me. & I know this is only (initially!) going to get worse once the baby is born. I feel like I should be realistic. I’m unhappy in this relationship. But I love him & perhaps I should give it all a chance to pan out once the baby is born. I honestly don’t know what to do, & I’m not sure right now is the best time to be making big decisions. But again... I’m so fed up with feeling unloved, rejected & lonely

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Babyroobs · 10/06/2018 00:31

Have you talked to him about how you feel? Depression by itself can kill sex drive.

Cheby · 10/06/2018 00:59

Depression kills sex drive. And if you’re anything like me pregnancy hormones pushes it through the roof. So unfortunately you’re possibly both very mismatched at the moment. But it’s likeky a transient thing.

You have to talk to him. Suggest counselling. He needs to work on closeness and intimacy to start with at least.

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