To think you don’t “maybe” have lymphoma, youneither hsve it or you don’t?

[NotARegularPenguin]

I have a rather toxic close family member who I’ve been NC with for years.

She recently emailed me to say it looked like she had cancer. Lengthy email detailing various investigations, expressing general disappointment in me but inviting me step up and help with hospital transport for probably chemo. At this point she was still waiting for a diagnosis.

I ignored the email and have heard nothing since. I set a mutual friend on the case to find out what was happening. So a few weeks after the email friend came back to say family member has got shingles and “may also have lymphoma”. Apparantly the doctors aren’t sure.

How hard is it to get a lymphoma diagnosis? My dad died of lymphoma and from suspicion to diagnosis was less than 48 hours....he was an inpatient though.

mytrainwaslate. You’re right, I need to stop dwelling on this. Thanks. So hard to do. After 5/6 years of having her oug my head I really feel this has knocked me backwards badly.

brazzle. Yes, that was me.

And for anyone who’s gone through such a diagnosis either for themselves or a loved one.