To think it's okay just to relax?

[Tasslegirl]

I'm 26 and working part time 2days (10 hour days +commute) I also enrolled for a course that I supposed to do the rest of the week. It's been difficult though, been really struggling with the course and it's really putting me off. I have emailed my tutor etc but they don't seem to care and keep saying I just need to accept it's an online course and there is only so much they can help.

So the past few months I've been doing a bit of course work, working 2 days and trying to spend time with my partner. He works abroad a lot and does crazy hours, sometimes he's away for weeks. This used to bother me but not anymore. I accepted this is his life and if he likes it who am I to tell him to stop?! I mean I have my opinion of the 'no one wishes they work so hard on their death bed' and he knows that but it's okay to have an opinion isn't it?!

Anyway I spend a lot of time alone, had some friend (couple) but started cutting them off as honestly I felt conversations were dragging and I felt like those friendships were superficial. I'm planning on changing careers in a couple of months. Already handed my notice in and my current job is coming to the end at the end of July. I love my job but I have been doing it for 6 years (the first 5 years I worked full time) and it's time for a change.

I'm hoping to get a new job that's a bit challenging, where I get to meet people and I can succeed and so excited for this.
BUT Lately I have been feeling guilty to be 26 and just lounge around 5 days a week. I mean I do cleaning, laundry, running errands, diy - a lot of it and trying to spend as much quality time with my partner as possible but I also spend a load of time day dreaming and watching tv. Like today, I ran some errands for a couple of hours in the morning and spent the rest of the day watching tv. Am I wasting my life here? Feeling so guilty! I know I won't be able to do this once I land my new job, I will have to work at least 4 days to make the same amount money as I'm making right now so is it okay just to relax for the next 1 1/2 months?

6 weeks to get anything done that needs doing and lots of relaxing! Yes sounds good

Call it a sabbatical. Then it sounds posher!

It's not like you're doing this for the foreseeable future, you have plans, you've covered yourself financially. Enjoy the time off.

If YOU feel like it's a waste and you'll regret not doing more with it then write a list of fun things you'd like to do. But if you're just worried others will think it's a waste ignore what they might think and crack on!

Is your new job full time? If it is see it as a summer break and enjoy, but if the new role is part time too, why? You have no DCs that you've mentioned, you have no reason to work part time, and if you can afford to not work at least do something productive with some of your spare time, you'll feel better about yourself if you're achieving things. In all honesty I wouldn't even give up work for a lottery win, because I enjoy what I do and it challenges me. Maybe in twenty years time I might and I'm older than you.

"if the new role is part time too, why? You have no DCs that you've mentioned, you have no reason to work part time"

Er, can young and childless people not choose to work part time if they want to and can afford to? Who decided we all need to spend 37.5 hours a minimum at work a week?

YANBU. At all.

Although I would just say, get your pension sorted out, if you haven't already - future Tasslegirl will thank you for it.

And, as it might be helpful to you, consider a 5 year plan - what do you want to achieve in the next 5 years and what do you need to put in place to achieve it? Not that things necessarily go to plan, but it can be helpful to have an idea.

Thanks for the comments guys. Pension is already sorted and the fat truth is that I could have worked more on my current position if I wanted to but for five years I did 40-55 hours a week and I don't know if it was worth it. Of course extra money would be great but I can afford all the things i need /want and save some(not loads but some) every month.

I'm just a bit worried, yes about people judging me but also if I'm missing out on something?! I'm 26 and I'm my own best friend. I enjoy being on my own and often would just have a 'chat with myself ' if I needed some advice. Gosh this sounds crazy 😳 I am having big family issues, currently not speaking to my own parents and honestly had a rough childhood. Nowadays I find myself digging into old memories and trying to relive them to see where things went wrong with my family. But I'm worried shouldn't I be more social? Am I wasting my 20s or I'm just being silly? Or maybe I'm just super a super weirdo