To not go to this concert with DD?

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DD is turning 10 this summer.

She really wants to see Ed Sheeran and I said if we could get tickets she could do that instead of having a birthday party.

But as it turns out, Ed Sheeran was sold out.

This week my neighbour said she has 2 tickets for Ed Sheeran next week.

I asked DD if she'd rather have the party or see Ed Sheeran and she still REALLY wants to go.

I don't mind Ed Sheeran, I don't know all of his songs but like a few. However, it's a school night which for DD I don't mind making an exception on, but I am crazily busy at the moment.

I work part time, go to Uni and have just started a clinical placement which is the morning after the late night of the concert. I am also working 2 evenings next week and generally knackered and I don't really need a late night and an hour's drive back from the concert, getting home at midnight.

DH said he'd take her but he hates Ed Sheeran.

However, I have a friend who loves Ed Sheeran. She is DD's ex teacher (she's now at a different school) her favourite teacher of all time who is not her maths tutor. They get on really well and DD loves er.

My teacher friend LOVES Ed Sheeran, would know all the songs and be completely enthusiastic about the whole thing, rather than knackered Mummy or not keen Dad.

WIBU to send DD with my friend?

I keep thinking on some level it's lazy to send her to her first concert without either of her parents, but actually this would be perfect as it's a responsible adult who she is friends with so a kind of best of both world's thing and would be really exciting for her in a way it wouldn't be with me or DH.

Plus my friend would get to see Ed Sheeran for free, so everyone would be winning.

What's the MN verdict?

(Sorry, my friend is NOW DD's maths tutor that should have said)

I think as long as you also do something with your DD to celebrate her birthday then it's fine.

If the friend is happy and your daughter has a good relationship with her, do it, she'll enjoy being there with someone else enjoying it. Just make sure you do something else with her to mark her birthday, family meal etc

Absolutely send her with the teacher/friend! I always find that concerts etc are more fun when you're with someone as equally enthusiastic about the artist as you are.

She'll have a great time and come home happy and exhausted, wanting to fill you in on everything that happened

Thanks, we're going to do a pizza restaurant night out near the end of term with a couple of friends from school and then her birthday is a Saturday in August so we'll have a family day out then.

I suppose this is more of a present than a party. I just wanted her to understand that concerts costs a lot of money and big parties do as well so she couldn't really do both.

double check the tickets because if theyve been bought through viagogo, loads of people are being turned away at the gate or having to re-buy tickets at full price. You might find it a lot more awkward with your neighbour if this happens, than fighting a faceless company.

google ed sheeren viagogo tickets

I'd go with her. It will be amazing to be there for your daughter.

Thanks Branleuse, I'll check. My neighbour is pretty sensible so I assume she bought them from ticketmaster or wherever when they came out but thank you for the heads up I'll double check.

I'm going to see Ed this week and there has been a reminder that to be allowed in you need the card used for buying the tickets, printed ticket confirmation and photo id matching the confirmation, so I'd be wary of buying tickets from your neighbour!

you can be perfectly sensible, but when tickets sell out in moments because of touts having software to snap them all up immediately, then if you want the tickets, you often dont have any choice but to go through the resale sites.

Im only aware of this because ive been ripped off by viagogo for another concert, so have been on the facebook group about viagogo, and this ed sheeren thing is a massive issue at the moment. They are marking all the tickets sold by resale sites as invalid and viagogo are being absolute dicks to deal with

I strongly suggest you be aware of this before parting with any money, because if you get there and they turn you away, it will be even worse for your dd

My understanding of the ed sheeran thing is it doesn’t matter if the neighbour bought them from ticket master if the person who bought them isn’t present when attending the concert as you need to show ID and the names have to match the confirmation

I'd go with my DD or DH would - it's not about what you do and whether the parent really like it or not. In my view its about doing something with your DD. To be frank you can't subsitute relationship building with your DD.

There is no way I wouldn't want to go but if you can't - at least her dad should go. It's his 9 year old daughter ffs, it's not about what he likes

Thanks for the Ed Sheeran ticket advice. I might need to look into it some more as I think they might be standing tickets and I don't think she's old enough...

I would go quite happily if it was at the weekend, it's just because I have to do my placement first thing the next morning and I'm already knackered.

I don't think we are going to be able to buy these tickets now, though, looking at it.

Is there anywhere that I can by seated tickets safely, does anyone know? I'd quite happily pay a bit more and take her myself over the weekend.

Is the twicket site ok?

I'm so clueless about this stuff...

See-tickets and ticketmaster are genuine sites, or going direct through the organiser is also fine. Just be really careful. Check theyre not charging over face value etc.
Im having to do a chargeback through my bank, and the guy was saying the amount of people that are having issues is unreal

Twickets is the official selling on site for selling on tickets so ok to buy from there

Thanks everyone, this thread has been really helpful! Twickets have seated tickets for Friday and Saturday night so I'll take her myself.

Problem solved!

I got my dad a ticket to see Frank Sinatra on (one of!) his farewell tours. It never even crossed my mind that dad would've wanted me to go. I've regretted not sharing that with him ever since.
'Its not what you do that you regret...'

It'd be fine for her to go with her teacher but I do think it's a bit sad that neither parent can be bothered. So what if you're a bit tired? So what if her dad isn't that much of a fan? It's about her enjoyment for her birthday and I'm sure she'd prefer to experience it with a parent.

Yes, look on 'twickets' website. It's the only official resale site for the Ed Sheeran tickets and when buying from there you will get a letter of confirmation that you bought from them and are therefore permitted access with the tickets you receive. Check the info on the website for youself for clarity. Also, if your neighbours want to sell on their tickets they can only do it through twickets otherwise there is no guarantee of their buyers getting into the concert.

In my experience ( went to Ed Sheeran with my 13yo dd, as well as others), even when these events say you have to have all this id to prove you are the person named on the tickets and bought them direct, the venues never ask for any of the id at the entrance. If you didn't have it though, and they did ask to see it, you could be denied access.

In my experience ( went to Ed Sheeran with my 13yo dd, as well as others), even when these events say you have to have all this id to prove you are the person named on the tickets and bought them direct, the venues never ask for any of the id at the entrance.

Yes, that ^. It has stated that on tickets for several concerts I have been to recently and not a single one of them has asked for any form of ID or booking confirmation at the gates.

I would go with her too, if she had been 19 I think it would've been different but she is 9, go with her even if you hate the artist. It is doing those kinds of things for your kids that stand out in years to come, I took my daughter to see Good Charlotte when she was a similar age and she has never forgotten that night, it made sitting through the noise concert so very worthwhile.

"neither parent can be bothered"

I'll be on my second day of a clinical placement the following morning that I can't afford to cock up in the middle of working a 60 hour week.

It's more than 'not being bothered'.

I'm taking her on Sunday.

I think you've got valid reasons for not going but i think i'd be extremely disappointed in DH for not taking her. It's neither here nor there whether your DH hates Ed Sheeran or not- his daughter loves him and it's her birthday.

Most parents would sacrifice a great deal more for their child's happiness than a few hours of music that isn't to their personal taste.