To have asked girls if they had a problem with my dc?

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Bit of back story dc (12) has had issues all through primary school, and now secondary school, with friendships. Always on/off, they said this/that (probably a typical girl thing) but it's gotten worse since secondary school with a few girls actually resorting to kicking /slapping dc, then a few days later theyre all friends again Anyway, went for a lovely walk in the sunshine with dc1 (12) and dc2 (2) and we see two girls walking towards us. They start whispering and looking at dc1, dc1 says nothing about it. Then they walk up and say 'you got beef with x?' dc1 stutters no. Girls go on 'you got beef with y?' Dc1 say no. Girls open their mouths and I ask them if there's a problem, and they don't answer just stand there looking at dc1. So I ask then again IS there a problem here? They look a little shocked for a minute then answer 'no' so I tell them 'off you go then' and off they went, looking back and giving us the evil eyes. Dc1 then says 'great, now they're gonna go back to school, tell everyone and I'll get picked on even more' I asked if she was having problems with these two girls and she said they were her friend!?! Wibu to ask (no snotty/threatening tone ) if there was a problem?? I woudnt have said anything had there been the usual exchange between friends (hi dc1, hi girls) or any other pleasantries but there was none, and none from dc1 either. I tried to explain to dc1 why I butted in, but she still wasn't happy. WIBU?

I don’t know if ywbu but right or wrong, i’d Probably do the same. Friends don’t act like that.

My 2x dd's and their friend have recently getting abuse and threats from a local girl, the friend's dm had police involvement as she assisted a boy in physical violence. The girl threatened to 'slaughter' my dd 11.
Red rag to a bull to me.
I took my dd and she pointed out the girl. I told her very clearly she was to have no contact - verbal /physical with any of them of the police would be involved big time.
She goes out of her way to avoid them all now.. No regrets.

Sounds bullying. Is it a London school?

I completely understand why you did what you did, and I would have done the same, but I also understand why your DC is feeling the way she is.

Have you spoken to the school about this? From my admittedly spotty memory of school, falling in and falling out of friendships is normal enough, but this is physical, which is completely unacceptable.

I'd have done the same. Probably wouldn't have been as polite as you as well.