'I tell you what i do know. This place is not the place to meet a man.'

[bluetrampolines]

Ive posted in aibu because i figure some of you may have good stories and wouldnt be looking on the relationships board.

I guess in the midst of a sad divorce and feeling lonely and very lost.

And this morning i heard people discussing how you cant meet someone in this town.

Do any of you have exciting stories of finding love when you least expect it? Im feeling very cynical right now.

Really no one? Nothing?

walking a dog.

It's only been 10 mins

I met my DH outside a strip club, I vomited on shoes and gave him my number to sort out replacing them.

bar work

Introduced by a friend. We need more Emmas

Wow. Really just totally random coincidence? Did you know it was the beginnning of something important?

Walking home from an old friends house, 11pm on a Friday night, annoyed by men so miserable and moody, he was walking his dog. We swapped number 18months later

We are still happy.

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I actually find that really sweet and it’s given me hope!!

I definitely know im not ready. My babies are with him this weekend. I am desperate for sleep and a break. We have been so busy. I am pissed off because i dont want plans this weekend. I dont want to make an appointment for company. But i do want company. The company of being a relaxed and happy couple. I cant imagine it ever again. I feel so cheated.

"In every nowhere town, there are somewhere dreams".
That's in the song from my wedding.
Neither of us were from where we met, neither of us gelled with anyone really. We both had plans to move on.
My husband had been gone a while, my divorce finally coming to an end. I'd given up on dating and was focusing on my children, a few friends and work.
You're not the situation you're in.
I suggest opening the door to friends and being able to relax first. Be good to you.

And by wedding I mean my now husband. I really never thought I would marry. So happy I was to be comfortable as single mum for a time!

Thank you wagging.

I guess i am frutrated because i thought the part of my life where i had to make such an effort was finished. I do 'friendly and jolly' so well. Ive moved overseas several times on my own. I cant imagine not feeling lost.

it seems a massive mountain sometimes to pick yourself up but other days come naturally. Best wishes.

After my divorce I met some grotty men. Later I took 2 years out to just do stuff, have fun by myself. Then met a guy who seemed ok, our 1st date was boring tho. All he talked about was the news and conspiracy theories (did you know MJ is still alive, he's been cloned🙄)

My eyes wandered across the room then I locked gaze with this gorgeous man and he's been my OH for 5 years now.

Weirdly we only lived 20 minutes apart, had some mutual friends, had been to same events, but just never directly came across each other.

Take a bit of time out - doesn't have to be ages, I don't believe in sitting in mourning whilst others are getting on with their lives - then just find ways to get out there socially

I did not want to meet anyone. Met DP at my friend's house. He was a friend of a friend of her partner.

I met my DH when he was in my way as I headed to the toilet in a nightclub. IIRC, I said "get out of my way or I will pee on your feet" so he moved. On my way back to my friends, he asked if he could buy me drink, and 20 years later, here we are

My BF went through a sad divorce. From that experience, I’d recommend focusing on yourself right now, and your children, on what it is you’re interested in rather than fixating on meeting someone as a goal. That’s a surefire way of getting hurt by seeing past faults in unsuitable men who are willing to pay attention to you when you’re needing to feel validated again.

For what it’s worth, my friend met her now DH a year after the divorce, pursuing a hobby of hers that they both shared. She’s incredibly happy and he’s great.

I wish you well !

He was my lodger, moved in and we were together after a month. Wasn't looking to meet anyone at all. 10 years later..

these things are so random though i went clubbing for years in my 20,s i never met a decent man , i met a lot of twats but none decent my sister however met her dh in a club rhat she rarely went into and the night had tonbe persuaded to go into. by myself and our friend her dh had also gone clubbing for years and never met anyone that lasted but they must have clicked as they have been together 20 years now? my friend has gone from one long term relationship to the next wirh barely a break in between , but she seems happy with her current partner of abour 15 years and they have two children. i myself met dh through his sister it was a one night stand however 13 years later and two children here we are like i said its random

I met mine at a cafe for a writing thing, not exactly the most glamerous, and I certainly wasn't looking.

Take care of yourself first, then start looking for a hobby that may get you out of the house (depending on DC age/ages). It'll get you out of the house and maybe it'll happen

In a Wetherspoons, which isn't that unusual really. But I'd been going to all these artsy pubs trying to meet someone so 'spoons did not meet my criteria for a good place to meet a man.

I was also coming down with flu pretty rapidly as he tried to talk to me and looked I like a zombie whereas I'm usually pretty put together.

Looking back, it's a miracle that we even ended up on a date.