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AIBU?

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To say he shouldn’t go

11 replies

Sophisticatedsarcasm · 08/06/2018 20:09

Basically DP and DS are attending an event tomorrow which they pre booked several weeks ago. Sod’s law DS gets sent home early from school with a high temp, I think it’s the virus that’s been circulating the house, my Dd had it last Saturday, sister had it tues into weds and me weds into Thursday. After some medicine and 6 hours of being normal he’s took a turn and spiked a fever again. I suggested to DP he should go by himself tomorrow as not to waste the money and he’s meeting some people there so he won’t be alone, but he almost got offended at the suggestion stating that we will see how DS is in the morning as his fever may have passed, which is true but I noted I was concerned that he may take a turn again in the day tomorrow and he said If he does we will come home. I said That’s not fair to himself as he’s gonna miss out, and he started going into one saying he won’t go at all because it’s not fair to DS If he misses it. I still stood by the fact he shouldn’t go but DP is convinced he will be better in the morning, he most likely will but I’m still not sure he should go, aibu?

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Sirzy · 08/06/2018 20:11

How old is he and how active is the event?

In most cases I would be with your dh and see how he is tomorrow

Ruffian · 08/06/2018 20:12

I agree with your dp - let them go if he's feeling well enough and if he takes a turn for the worse they'll just have to come back again. It's obviously important to him to go with ds so best not to intervene unnecessarily

SurfingSally · 08/06/2018 20:13

Unless he is very young or has other health concerns that make a fever more serious I agree with your dh.

See how he is tomorrow.

Sophisticatedsarcasm · 08/06/2018 20:14

It’s a very active in terms of walking and some amusements and also the weather is suppose to be hot tomorrow 🤔 he has ASD which worries me all the more. Fingers crossed 🤞 he’s okay in the morning.

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Sophisticatedsarcasm · 08/06/2018 20:15

He is 10...

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ReadytoTalk · 08/06/2018 20:15

It's not only up to you. He's his parent too. Id say go then come home if he takes a turn.

titchy · 08/06/2018 20:16

Agree with your dh and see how he is tomorrow. Pack them off with Calpol just in case.

Leeds2 · 08/06/2018 20:17

I would follow DH's suggestion.

Sophisticatedsarcasm · 08/06/2018 20:19

@readytotalk I’m aware he is his son to that’s why I haven’t completely dismissed the idea. I just wanted to see if I’m being over cautious. It’s not just that he’s usually closer with me when he’s sick 🤒 and sometimes DP puts convenience in front of practicality.

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SurfingSally · 09/06/2018 23:18

What was the decision op?

Sophisticatedsarcasm · 10/06/2018 22:58

He didnt end up going because still had high temp in the morning. 38.2 😐 he’s all better today. His dad went by himself. DS was a bit upset but okay.

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