SIL problems.

[Crazymamm]

Hi sorry this will be a long post!

Basically looking for opinions?
My SIL can’t have kids which is of course horrible and unfair. But she accepted that a long time ago (not a recent thing).
This was until I fell pregnant. Before this we were really close and she kept begging me to have a baby so she can babysit etc.

But since I told her I wasn’t pregnant she has turned really nasty to me. At first it was just snide comments and remarks. Then she started trying to cause trouble between myself and my partner. The last straw was when MIL called me angry because I posted a scan picture on FB. Saying I was rubbing it in her face n just trying to annoy her.

This obviously isn’t the case I’m already a mum of 2 and I extremely happy about this baby and will show it. I won’t hide my baby for no one! BUT it has came out that she has been calling MIL a lot to moan about me and stuff so MIL is not not as excited about baby and stopped the knitting and doesn’t ask about bump or midwife anymore.

I’m really hurt she is trying to shun baby out. But I’m mostly hurt because my partner refuses to do anything about this. It’s absolutely killing me. Loads more has happened but that’s the jist of it, causing trouble between my partner and I and his family because I’m pregnant.

I just don’t know what to do now. My partner refuses to stand up for us and his family think I’m awful for being pregnant.
It’s really hurting me and effecting my mood. I HAVe tried reasoning that I’ve done nothing wrong but I get nowhere :(

Infertility is awful, but so is trying to force you to hide your pregnancy! Your SIL isn't going to be able to avoid pregnant women forever. It's doing her no favours prolonging her issues by expecting you to pander to them.

I'd continue as normal with your pregnancy. It might be difficult, but if you want to do something, don't analyse whether or not it will affect your SIL. If she has an issue with a picture you posted, tell her if she doesn't want to see she should unfollow you and every other woman on her list just in case they happen to get impregnated

Don't allow anybody to make this into your problem. It's your SIL who is upset at you having a baby. You haven't had a baby to upset your SIL. While you're pregnant you shouldn't stress yourself out; eat salami and tuna sandwiches or whatever you're craving and don't give it any more headspace.

Your MIL is being silly IMO. I understand she's upset but they're upset with the situation, not with you, and it's unfair to take it out on you, especially at a time where you need to be relaxing more than anything.

First world problems - most definitely.
If someone shows you their true colours, move on. That is her loss and if she wants to bring MIL into the mix, let these two unhappy people do what makes them happy, but leave you out of it.
Life is too short to be bothering and taking up your value time.
If MIL calls about SIL nastiness, tell her: right now I am busy and do not have the time for folks who spend their time slandering others.
Find yourself positive people to interact with, it pays great dividends, it really does.
Also stop getting your husband involved. Men are funny, when it becomes too much, you will certainly hear him blow his fuse with MIL and SIL.