Being paranoid when people don't sit next to me during baby classes

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Just that really! AIBU?

To start, I would say that I am completely "normal" (whatever that means) and don't have personal hygiene issues.

So in this class I go to, there's a mum I've spoken to a few times, we have a few things in common and she seems really nice. We're definitely not friends, by a few I do really mean three times!

So today she was one of the last to arrive and came in, walked past the space next to me (there was one other space on that side) and went to the far side where there was barely any room.

I just get really paranoid about this kind of thing; I have been left with the only space beside me in this class a couple of times before. To be fair, it has happened to others on occasion too. Not loads though. And when it happens to me multiple times (and people take a tiny non space rather than come over to where I am) I start reading into it. (I promise I don't sit there staring at every newcomer and twitching when they walk past )

I feel sad that she wouldn't want to talk to me (are my social skills that awful?!)

I guess I'm placing more emphasis on this as these classes are my rare adult interactions during the week, and being off work I have a lot of time to stew over them. This is a common theme for me that I constantly constantly battle - people not liking me.

I'm aware I sound like a 12 year old. A 12 year old that's about to go and have a glass of wine

I run baby classes and totally get how they are great way to if not make friends then at least have some adult interaction. I’m always thrilled to see when real friendships develop but it doesn’t happen that often. People come with real friends to these classes so obviously want to sit near them or maybe they have just not seen you especially if running late they’ve been rushing to get there. Just concentrate on having lovely time with your baby. But be sure to say hi and bye to people you like. It takes time to make mummy friends

Don’t sweat it. She possibly doesn’t want to buddy up so wants a chance to chat to others. I found that all the people I found nice and interesting were not the ones who wanted to befriend me!

Thank you! Both responses very sensible and have given me a better perspective on things

I’m sure you’re not overthinking it.

Which I can say as I totally overthink things like this too.

Spend my life convinced no one likes me and that my friends are all just pretending.

I guess that’s having emotionally abusive family members for you.

In any case. As long as you’re friendly an civil then it’s a reflection on them and not you. X