To think this is a bit annoying?

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Planned to cook dinner for a couple of old friends yest. Confirmed with them, all good, we live in same city so they were going to pop round after work. One lives around 10 mins away. Anyway ah about 4 I was just about to head out to buy ingredients and one cancelled saying she felt sick. She has apologised and all ok but really, at 4? We will rearrange but I feel like it’s more tiredness and it’s a bit shitty to confirm on the day then decline at 4, 3 hours before due to come round! Or am I being precious?

Nope, that's rude. She must have known you'd probably bought all the stuff.

She must of known she was sick earlier surely? Reckon it’s just the end of the week and she can’t be bothered

Yeah I think it was that too. I said it was fine and let’s rearrange, I think she’s feeling guilty as she’s messaging a lot and being very sweet. It hurts a bit as she’s one of my closest friends!

What do I say back? She must know I’m pissed off as I haven’t replied yet. We used to live together and I know she can be like this with everyone (so it’s not personal), rude though

I think you are being a bit precious, but then you know her and I don't, so maybe you feel like this because she's done things like this before?

I've woken up feeling ropey before, knowing I'm probably coming down with something, and tried to carry on as normal only to realise later in the day that I'm really not ok. The next day I've been properly poorly and wished I'd taken it easier the day before!

In fact I cancelled on a close friend recently. We'd had a bbq planned for ages, I was off sick all week but waited until last minute to say I couldn't go because I was really hoping I'd be ok by then!

Sickness has to start sometime. I was once at work. We got sent home 2 hours early, at 3pm. Within half an hour of being home I had the most awful stomach upset (think both ends), when I'd been feeling fine all day till then.

She might have thought she'd feel better as the day went on but actually felt worse. Given you were only about to pop out for ingredients, no harm done

It depends, it could have been she ate something dodgy at lunch so just started to feel unwell. Or if she had a bug they can strike at any time so she might have felt fine this morning. Or she’s flaking as she can’t be bothered. You really have no way of knowing. And you can’t exactly do anything about it like confront her and claim she’s faking so just let it go. Unless she does it a lot then I’d be questioning whether to invite her next time, at the very least I’d suggest a take away so you weren’t left wondering whether or not to buy ingredients.

How annoying. But she might be telling the truth.

Maybe she is pregnant and has morning sickness? Mine used to start in the evenings with one of my dcs.

I'd give her the benefit of the doubt.

Do people all feel ill only from the start of the day? Maybe she felt ok when you spoke earlier than she's started to feel crap lunchtime, hoped she'd feel better but by 3 knew it wouldn't

Yes you are being precious. Maybe it is an excuse but illness can start at any time and be very quick sometimes. I had some bug last week, at 5:30pm I was having coffee with a friend feeling absolutely fine and less than two hours later I was very poorly and unable even to stand up with a temp of 39.5 and taking antibiotics.

If your friend has form for flakiness, maybe now is the time to raise this, gently?

However, it is possible to get ill during the course of the day. Last time I had flu I felt A1 in the morning and like I was about to die by the late afternoon.

It really depends on if you trust her or not. When my best friend has done it to me I've completely trusted that she's not well and wished her a speedy recovery.

I do trust her but I also know she’s used this as an excuse to other people before :/