To leave NCT WhatsApp group

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I know this is not really that big a deal but I still feel awkward about it.

I attended NCT antenatal classes two years ago with six other couples. I was actually single which was the main reason I forced myself to go even though I didn’t really want to, not being much of a ‘group’ person. But I felt like it was the done thing to do I guess and I didn’t want the fact I was single to mean I didn’t do things ‘normal’ pregnant women do.

I actually regret going because it was quite awkward at the time for me and the others as well I think, as well as the group leader, when it came to talking about partners and their roles etc. I don’t think they really knew what to say to me which is completely understandable.

Anyway I went along with it and the obligatory meet ups after the babies were born etc, they’re all really nice people but not really anyone I could see myself being close friends with (I have a close group of friends as it is and am not lacking in social life or support)

So two years on and I’ve stopped attending meet ups for over a year and don’t contribute to the WhatsApp group. I really want to leave but it seems really rude to just leave the group, and equally rude to announce I’m leaving before I do so. So do I just stay and remain silent and put up with the irritating thousands of message notifications? I know I can turn the sound off but they still show up as red numbers.

Just leave.
No announcements, no sweeping statements.
Friendship groups change all the time. Some are short lived and serve a common purpose and then move on. That's all that's happened here.

I think I’ll just leave, I know they won’t be bothered either! I just wish WhatsApp didn’t announce it on your behalf when you leave a group

Haha no it’s not L, I’ve just thought I wouldn’t be surprised if the others in my group had seen this though so maybe I’ll leave it a while before I do anything!

Just delete and leave. You don't plan to see them again

These arnt your friends and the likelihood you are probably not their friends. You knew each other due to a specific circumstance which has now passed and while you don't wish anyone ill will you also don't feel the need to continue the relationships they very likely feel the same so just quietly pull out and move on with your life.

There is a ringleader in our NCT group and I know at least one other feels she’s too overbearing too. Weekly meet ups are on a day I can’t do. We don’t really have much in common. But I regularly bump into all of them individually out and about so I don’t want to just randomly leave!! ?? They’re all pleasant except for the main one.

Also muting whatsapp isn’t a good solution because the longest you can mute it for is a week, and you still get the notifications, just no sound. Which means it’s no different for me as my phone is always on silent!

try flouncers corner for ideas. if you're going to leave go BIG lol don't just sneak out the side. Next time messages come up just say something like you've inherited a shit ton of money and will be hiding so the newspapers won't find you as someones put a price on your head as you slept with Boris Johnson last year and MI6 are trying to kill you.

They won't believe it but at least when WhatsApp says you've gone it might make them laugh

futurefairycrayon Who initially set up the group on WhatsApp? That person can just delete people you know. They control who's in it.

I don't get whatsapp notifications OP, I have to click onto the app to see any updates. I suppose that's not how you're meant to use it and it does mean I don't respond quickly but I can't be doing with the beeping and it keeps all those groups slightly at arms length!

That's not true, whatsapp notifications can be muted for 8hrs, 1 week, or 1 year.

“I’m having a bit of a digital declutter including deleting this Whatsapp group. Nothing personal, all the best for the future. OP”

Just leave the group!

You’re an adult and a parent, you don’t need the permission of internet strangers.

I don't think it would be over dramatic or anything to send a quick message thanking them for all the support over the years and that you wish them all well but don't feel you need the same support anymore so will be leaving the group but will look forward to hearing how you're getting on when you run into each other out and about.

People drift apart, it's nothing bad.

'All the support over the years' could come across as sarcastic as she hasn't spoken to them or seen them in one year.

I deleted WhatsApp. I had a lot of groups I didn't want to be in, I never talked to anyone individually on whatsapp who didn't also have fb.

hi all, I’m coming off WhatsApp from now on. All the best xxxx’

I think this is perfect.

If they've not engaged in conversation with you for a while they are not going to miss you.
I think you are over flattering yourself if you do some sort of an announcement when the reality seems to be they couldn't care less.

The "xxxxxx has left the..." message isn't helpful. If you'd like to remain on good terms I'd just say what was suggested above.

A Mum flounced left our class WhatsApp which was fine but the message in the middle of the ongoing chat was so off putting.

Just leave the group. If any of them are bothered they can send you a message saying 'is everything ok?' And you can explain.

We have people in our NCT group who we barely hear from or see and who always cancel on plans at the last minute. It'd be easier if they just left and told us they weren't interested in meeting etc 🤷‍♀️. I'd rather people were just upfront.

OP, you're over thinking all of this. No one cares if you're single, no one cares about nct and no one cares about whatsapp.