Am I being disgusting.

[babibell]

I lost my baby on the 8th December. They would be due 17th July. I want to try now but when I got upset once about it, I said I wouldn't try till their due date. Would I be disgusting to start trying now?

@SemperIdem thank you

@littlemisscomper I will

@Sunflower1140 thanks and you!

Thank you @babibell, it was a very difficult time and you go through so many emotions. We already had DS and decided to try one more time. I got pregnant again straight away and our DD is now 8 years old.

I wish you luck whatever you decide to do. And please be kind to yourself.

Of course you wouldn't ! Bless you op! Wishing you lots of luck

Not at all, I think it's different for everyone. I started trying as soon as possible. But you are not disrespecting your babies memory. Xx

@Monr0e ❤️❤️❤️❤️
@clumsyduck thank you ❤️❤️

Not at all. So sorry about your loss.

@zzzzz I'm so sorry for you lose❤️ thank you x
@fabulousfrumpyfeet thank you and sorry for you lose ❤️x

@Fruitcorner123 ❤️

Try now, don't wait. I lost a son at 22 weeks on a 1th of July, I tried and became pregnant straight away in September.
My gynaecologist who had 10 children herself and had lost two, told me , start trying as soon as possible.

I don't remember him for his due date. I remember the day he died. You are not betraying anyone by trying now.

It will get better. I will still be painful when you think about it, but one day it won't be the first thing you think about when you wake up.
Becoming pregnant will bring joy.

I had a miscarriage in December sadly. Just before my 12 week scan. I was devastated and my due date would have been the 14th of July. It took us a while to come round to the idea of trying again and for the first month we started again I felt so upset, like I was denying it ever happened, felt guilty etc. I feel much more positive about it now. I have put a nice quote "Sometimes the smallest things take up the most room
In your heart" and I have put my scan picture behind it so no one can see it but I know it's there. Do what is right for you, it's a long road but you'll do it when you feel ready. July is not that far away if did decide you wanted to wait.

Xx

I think it is important to remember and mark your due date. Are you feeling slightly guilty, in that if you start trying before, it is in some way being disrespectful to the baby that you lost?

I took great comfort in a woman telling me that I would always be that baby's mum, even if I didn't hold them in my arms.

As a woman who lost four babies but then managed to go on and give birth to four, I can promise you that they each have a special place in my heart and those not with us will never be forgotten by DH or I. They were all loved and wanted.

And the things that soothed my heartache and kept my sanity were to keep on trying and the mumsnet loss/miscarriage boards. I honestly think without these, I would have completely lost hope.

for you. Xxx

This is such a sad thread.

OP your heart is telling you what is right for you and your family - listen to your instincts and I wish you the very best of luck.

If I hadn’t started trying before EDD I wouldn’t have had my fabulous DD1 (now 23). I do sometimes think about that, in a ‘what if’ kind of way but the pain of that time has gone.

You’ll know when you’re ready, and you’ll never forget the first, those hopes and dreams you’d already got, but it’s not disloyal to be ready to try again xxx

Definitely not disgusting! Do it when you're ready.

I tried again the same month and got pregnant straight away. This really helped me knowing that if the first pregnancy hadn’t ended I would not have had my amazing son.

Of course thts not disgusting.

After trying for 5 years I fell pregnant. I sadly lost the baby at 3 months. My period never came back and I started feeling weird, turned out I had got pregnant again only a month or so after losing the other baby. It felt weird at first mind, but yeah. My doctor said it was really really common to fall pregnant again soon as your hormones are still raging, or something like that. My sister meanwhile, has a miscarriage and was actually celibate for 2 years as she did not feel ready and did not trust protection.

Basically, I don't see how you would even think it is disgusting, its a totally personal choice