Bride and Predjudice

[Puffycat]

Oh MN! I’ve just started watching this prog and I really need some perception put on this!
If my DD wanted to marry someone of the same sex, trans, a different religion, culture or colour, as long as she was happy and her chosen partner was a good person who loved my DD.........you have my blessing!
BUT I, as a mum, I really can’t get my head around her marrying a guy 35 yrs her senior!
AIBU?

I've just found this on catch up and I'm going to give it a watch. I'll hold my hands up, I would be quite upset if one of my DDs got with a man who was a lot older as I would worry that he would use his experience to control her. My own OH is 8 years older then me but I feel that's my upper limit, I don't think I could do more then 10 years difference.
I think it's very creepy.

Ok so what are people's biggest age gap relationships?
Mine was 15 years, I was 24, he was 39. They're was probably a power imbalance in a way but would there be now at 36 and 51? No, so I wonder where that line is.
Having said that re power imbalance, I def pushed more for a relationship with him, he was far more worried about having one

Podge my DH is the least controlling person i have ever met. If i tell him im going out somewhere or doing something i just get "ok have a nice time"

I ask if he wants me to text him and let him know if im going to be late

"no stop worrying"

The only reason i do this rarely is because hes in poor health There is not anything controlling about him.

When we watch something on TV that has a controlling person in it we both think "how stifling"

It’s not control, you could get that in any relationship regardless of age. My DH is 13 yrs older than me, my dad was 8 yrs older than my mum, and I know that there’s a big difference between 15 & 30 and 25 & 40........but.......I really would find it difficult if it was MY daughter with someone THIRTY FIVE years older.
There, I’ve said it

Helena I don't think that every age gap relationship is controlling but if it were one of my daughter's I know I would worry about it all of the time. Of course if that happens I will have to deal with it but hopefully it won't come up.
I'm glad it has worked out with you and your OH, though.

Thing is its like the widow, career thing. Many people are controlling and abusive with no correlation to age.