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Picking a movie with dp #rage

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Bluebellsagain · 07/06/2018 21:24

Prob am BU but just have to rant! Does anyone else have a nightmare trying to pick something to watch with their Dp? We have Netflix, prime, freeview, all the on demand apps eg iplayer. Literally every time we sit down to watch something together it’s badically impossible. He will be all “I’m not in the mood for a drama” “I’m not in the mood for true crime” “I’m not in the mood for a western” “I’m not in the mood for something depressing/romantic/whatever”. No recently released highly rated new movies ever appeal to him, none of the classic movies. We start a series and guaranteed will never finish it even if I’m hooked because he “gets bored” of series. The last 2 things he has wanted to watch have been a documentary about Crossrail and a film about a mathematician. I would consider those quite niche, nothing wrong with liking those but just as I don’t ever make him watch Tudor bodice-rippers or musicals, it annoys me that he refuses to watch stuff we might both like. We were just 15 min into a very long selected film that HE chose and he stated saying he “regretted picking it” and we had to turn it off. I’ve just given up and gone to bed! Feel like I have scrolled through the entire catalogue of Netflix and amazon now...
He spends a lot of time gaming on his computer before we watch tv (I don’t have one) and watching a bit of tv is my chill time in the evenings, working ft with a challenging toddler. So it’s extra frustrating that he seems to not care about anything except what he wants to watch. Previously when I have suggested too many things to watch he has said I always make him watch “my” stuff in a way that made me feel like a controlling cow, so I’ve stopped choosing stuff I like really. But we can’t agree on anything for the both of us either!
Aibu?!? Not sure what I can do about this but needed the outlet... our relationship is otherwise great, btw!

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BackforGood · 07/06/2018 23:10

Well, YABU to expect an adult to spend their 'relaxing time' sitting watching something they don't want to, IMO.
dh and I have different tastes in 'entertainment'. We are both busy people, both go out to various meetings re hobbies / volunteering, both work at home, so time sitting watching TV is limited, so we both use that time to watch things we want to watch - doesn't bother us that we aren't wanting to watch the same programme.

AjasLipstick · 07/06/2018 23:40

He spends a lot of time gaming on his computer before we watch tv

You say that as though you watching TV together were a given...it's not you know. Plenty of couples never do. You don't have to.

DH and I certainly NEVER do. It's doesn't work unless it's something you're both interested in so why force it?

You also say watching a bit of tv is my chill time in the evenings YOUR chill time OP.

Just watch on your own.

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