To be really fed up?

[Lobsterquadrille2]

I've posted about my childhood before. My father died a couple of months ago and I'm the one nearest to my mother. I am an alcoholic who had a relapse and I'm getting over it. I don't know how to cope at the moment. Example questions via text: why are you and DD eating at this time? Why are you eating pizza? Why are you washing now when you have had all day? Why isn't DD calling her landlord to fix the toilet? (She has).

Just sent her a photograph of me in my wedding dress. My hair is wrong, my shoes are wrong, I look chunky (I am 5 foot 8 and less than 9 stone) and I'm standing incorrectly.

I've so had enough.

Sorry, that was all about DM

Instead of telling her about you, can you just ask lots q's of about her instead? Try and divert her attention?

She doesn't do anything. She and my father were married for almost 66 years. I've tried to get her back to art classes, suggested a pet, helped with clearing out his things, cooked with her but she's nearly 88 and not interested in doing anything. She has really lovely neighbours who have been brilliant but she avoids them. She seems to want me there all the time and in the beginning it was ok, but I have a daughter and a fiancé and AA and I seriously don't know what to do with her. And I adore her despite everything.

I'm getting married on their 66th wedding anniversary which she is really looking forward to but I'm now dreading it!

Good luck and hope you manage to make time for yourself